I just don't know how to act in such situations..
My problem is.. that I cannot wear a mask, I wish I could (not literally)
Which on some level is a blessing. Again, giving actual advice on this forum is near impossible due to each person having a particular combination of catalysts and symptoms.
However, for whatever it's worth, have you tried being extremely open?. My thinking is that if you find it hard wearing a social mask, then perhaps you don't have to. I recently had a conversation with my relatives, and one of my relatives mentioned drugs. I said outright, "Yeah, I was trying effexor for about 6 months"
"What's that?"
"Anti anxiety medication"
"Why did you take it" (you must try and ignore/accept comments like this)
"Because I was suffering from anxiety, still am, mind you, I just am trying to tackle it head on now instead of with drugs"
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Now, true, I did not say I was suffering from social phobia, but it's a step in the right direction.
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About a year ago, i would have never said something like that. I would have been embarrassed, or think that me saying that would lead to people thinking less of me. However I find that if I am completely honest about most things with people, nomatter how those things might seem, or how i imagine they might seem, that it somehow works better for me than being evasive as a form of self protection, or only partly honest.
Mind you, there are still many times that I outright lie, I am currently in between these two stages. Change is gradual, incremental, for me at least. (As much as i wish it was "snap your fingers")