Life gone backwards thanks parents

sahxox

sahxox

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Some people have kids, not realising they'll grow up one day lol

Why do people plan out having babies, spend 10 years giving them story-book birthday parties, bed-time stories, helping at school, then decide that their role finishes when ****rty starts? It's like they lose interest in their kids... or they get sick of them. You can't expect them not to grow up lol
 
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MikeyC

MikeyC

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You've mentioned before about the toxic nature of your parents, so you know where a lot of your emotional issues stem from. Is there any chance of moving out? I think it should be a priority if your parents are harassing you too much.

Would slicing a lot of contact with them help you out? I can't imagine it'll be the magical cure for you, but it could go a long way to helping you become the person you want to be, not the person restricted by your parents.
 
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destructoroflife

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Re: Some people have kids, not realising they'll grow up one day lol

sahxox said:
Why do people plan out having babies, spend 10 years giving them story-book birthday parties, bed-time stories, helping at school, then decide that their role finishes when ****rty starts? It's like they lose interest in their kids... or they get sick of them. You can't expect them not to grow up lol
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One of the reasons I'm not having kids.

I mean, if you're going to be a parent, you better be ready to provide everything that child ****ing wants. He's here because of you, asshole.

It's like: "Ok, we ****ed and decided not to abort you, we give you food, and a place to rest, and now you're 18, so you better ****ing find something to do, because real life is coming and will hit you hard, and I don't want to help you out anymore".
 
Saraswati

Saraswati

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Yeah. Parents can really make your life harder. And then when you need their help with the problems you have because of THEM, they are nowhere to be found.
One thing I realized is that if you have problems because of your parents you cannot count on them to help you with it. They are not capable of doing that. If they would be, they wouldn't f*** it up in the beginning.

Also, our parents have problems of their own and they don't know how to fix them. I feel like I'm the parent and my mom is the child. I have social phobia because of my parents, I learned it from them. My mom never got over it and now it is on me to fix it. I'm alone in this because no one understands and my mom is just making excuses all the time - "I am like this because of my parents. I can't change."
Great. Why not just say it's HARD and then try SLOWLY dealing with it?
But the only person you can change is yourself. Others won't change if they don't want to.

Although I have to say that I wasn't planned and my parents were way to young and childish for having me. Now, at 24 I'm starting to see how much of an negative impact they had on me. It's going to be a long road fixing all of this.
 
Odo

Odo

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Parents Just Don't Understand - YouTube

I think there's a point when you need to stop thinking about what your parents did or didn't do and start thinking about what you're going to do about it. It's not like they're superheroes or machines that give you everything you want whenever you ask for it. They're people... and if you're getting older, then you need to start learning how to take care of yourself.
 
Pacific_Loner

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
^Agreed... It's useless to keep blaming the parents once you got old enough to take control of your life
 
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