Well Im kind of relieved to say I do not have SAD, at one time I thought that I could have and me thinking I might have it tended to make me feel like I did which seemed to make me take on a role as if I did. I looked around at other people, and even though I did not talk to them about it I could see that many of them had the same kind of things that made me think I might have SAD in the first place, some of them say they feel things that I feel too. Im SAD free, but that doesnt mean Im not sad. I too have never had a girlfriend, but the reasons are probably several fold, first of all Im kind of a picky guy I guess, Im not turning down any dates or lays (never ahd one of those either
) but if Im gonna get serious with a girl Im not gonna settle for someone I will end up hurting because I settled and something better came along (most people dont think this way and dont care to hurt someone), secondly I dont know many people and those that I do know are all married or hooked up and Im not into cheating or helping someone cheat (unlike many people) thirdly Im not an ugly fellow, but Im kinda skinny amd have skinny arms, many girls want a guy with big arms. Forth Im just not very successful when it comes to money, nice cars and good jobs, thats my fault because I didnt give a damn when I was in school.
But I will tell you one thing... its not because Im afraid to socialize, heck Ive asked several complete strangers if they would like to go out with me sometime.. of course none of them ever accepted for varying reasons, but it wasnt cause I was too shy to ask.
Heres a few tips for yall, and they sound easy yet when your in the SAD hole they feel unattainable I kno wbecause I felt like I was there once.
First and foremost...... WHO GIVES A F#@K WHAT THEY THINK OF YOU!?!?! Whether it be the opposite sex or the same sex your worried about, F#@K them! You aint living this life for them and if the wanna degrade or start something over it, they are the ones with aproblem NOT YOU!
Secondly..... This is tied to the first.... SOCIALIZE, act a goof, say that witty thing you are thinking. Even if it comes out all messed up and you have to explain what in the heck you were saying and why it had any relation to the conversation/situation at hand, it doesnt matter cause thats conversating.
Thirdly... just because youve never had a girlfriend or boyfriend doesnt automatically make you SAD, even if youve never asked someone out doesnt mean you have SAD. Could mean your picky like me, or know your chances are slim. Slim beats none anyday. :wink: And for you girls! Yall got it pretty easy (I know its not as easy as it seems to us guys, but I gotta play this role lol) go out on that date with the guy who asked you... even if you dont really think you like him (sorry I just wish all the ones i asked had done this lol) you can always change your minds later (either by liking him or telling him the date was a mistake) and discover your POWER! you are female! Even the toughest guy will almost always go out of his way to do whatever you want ( I swaer it works on me everytime regardless of looks). If you ask a guy out... OMG! you are the coolest girl in the world! You just saved us from having to try and ask you out!
Give it a try sometime, it just might make ya feel better about yourself.
