im a girl but dont look like one help!

ScaredToBreathe

Well-known member
grow your hair out or wear some make-up (especially on eyes). or wear tighter clothing so people see you have boobs.
i have the same problem i have short hair n dress like a guy but im a girl. even my mom thought i was a boy one time when we met up at a store cuz i bought different clothes n looked even more boyish. and a man held a door open for some people and then when i approached he said to me "go ahead young man." i used to have long hair and look more "girly" cuz of it but when i cut it short everyone assumes im a boy and my friends that know im a girl were callin me a dyke but im straight. i just like being a tomboy. :(
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
your right :D
but i have difficult speaking with girls,, specially girly talk i hate those!

I hate girly talk too, but that's okay. It doesn't mean you don't seem like a girl. Not all girls are same. I don't think there's anything wrong with a tom boy look, but I agree with others, if you do wanna look more girly you can grow your hair or make some changes with your clothes. You don't have to look like a complete 'girly girl' though. Maybe you can keep your hair short but give it a cut that flatters your face. You don't have to wear very sexy clothes but you can wear clothes that are somewhat fitted. Use makeup if you like, but it doesn't have to be too heavy, maybe you can keep it simple and light.
 

milo001

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I'm a tomboy and I don't feel like I need to change myself.I think about the girls flirted with you is not really because they thought you are a guy they know you are a girl but because of your boyish looks they flirted with you.If you really want to looks more feminine try follow others suggestions.
 
Hi Miss Didi :cool:

I know how you feel. Although I like being a cool girl, I like to hang in between feminine and masculinity. It's just a personal thing I like. :D It's who I am. I don't know about you though, I do dress somewhat girlier in special occasions though, like Feathers said, a tomboy with girly ''shade'' so just a little thing to make you feel a little more like a woman. ;] and make other people see that way.
You know, you can experiment on so many ways, you can grow your hair longer indeed.. I'm going with ya.. haha :p People have been mistaken me by a guy all time, i don't want to change the fact that i'm a tomboy or tomgirl whatever I should say, I just will be with a girly shade. But I'm not a typical girly shirt wearing type. It's really not my kinda thing. I do find it important to look good and be attractrive, but I'm not making it the whole point like I used to do.
I am just me, and whetever people find me weird for looking so guyish, I don't care. I just try to grow my hair and make people see that I am a girl only with another style, a cool dudette. ;)

But I can imagine that you're straight and lesbians are flirting with ya, bcuz girls think you are, because you seem a little bit different than the other girls.... Mostly it's obvious. Still it doesn''t say anything about orientation.
Some girls are really feminine and are also called Lipstick lesbians. you know?
So don't worry hun, even those girls would get attention by girls, they are not easily approachable, so you don't see it everyday.. it's sad though... society makes girls need to be Britney Spears or Paris Hilton thanks to the TV.. You see photoshop girls everywhere in news papers and on commercials... You see hot figures and perfect skin, the world is really getting crazy... and guys need to be muscular and need this hot smile and be the popular macho alpha male.. Where are we going?

That's exactly why I'm not listening to these fairy tales.. I'm myself and people have to accept this either way one day i'm guyish or girly, who cares?

And yea I am gay lol so for me it's different
I know when i show that i'm a girl people find me attractive, i'm sure my lover thinks so and same goes other way around, but we both are tomboys and still love eachother for who we both are and find eachother sexy! ;)

Speaking of which.... What if you meet a cute guy and I guess you are a girl that likes guy things too? It just seems like it so.. I don't know. hehe, I know A LOT OF guys like it when girls understand their mind so they don't have to wait for their partner making up herself in the washroom all the time before going out! xD

And also guys think girls are intelligent when they know their way of thinking and speaking and hobbies and such.. Girls who beat the guys can be pretty cool hey ^^ or hang out with guys and they won't make a problem out of it,
just be yourself hun.. you are good looking, a cute face , I know there will be guys who like ya for who you really are

and if you want to change, just grow your hair and like the other girls said try out feminine stuff, i notice the difference with myself too when i wear those clothing... it's a lot different lol but not wrong to like the other way around !! there's no line between genders anymore, especially not with girls... girls can wear guys clothes and look cute and well guys, not wear skirts AHUM but pink shirs are nice with some of them right? :]
 

Didi

Member
thank you for your advice!
i think i already know what to do now.
once again thank you for your help :)
 
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