If you had a friend that treated you the same way you treated yourself

[Helmaninquiel]

I have a good friend, although she can be a little judgmental sometimes.

 

[Umbra]

I wouldn't want to remain friends with them(In which case it wouldn't really be friendship at all) , but I would still act as thought they were my friend because a bad friend is better than no friends at all.

 

[bardock]

come to think about it i've never had anything nice to say about myself and im always critical, so nope

 

[Moo]

Hmm.. interesting question and responses.

I enjoy my own company. I think I'm a nice person. I do insult myself all the time though but there are also other moments when I tell myself I don't deserve that kind of treatment. No I wouldn't be friends with someone who treated me the way I treat myself, I flip between being nice to myself and horribly critical to myself all the time.

 

[polishgirl]

I would put him/her down all the time. Too much criticism, I don't think that would appeal to any friend.

 

[upndwn]

I actually think I would make a good friend, a lazy one, but I'm not mean or judgmental and I consider myself to be supportive and even a bit to kind sometimes.

 

[she1slander]

Hmm... I've always wondered this about myself. Would I want to be friends with me? Probably for just a little bit and then the next day, I'd avoid myself like a plague. So to be honest, I'd say yes. If I can forgive myself, I can definitely forgive another friend who's just like me. Besides, I don't think you can really lose a friend unless you stop keeping in touch with them. If I'm gonna be single for a long time, I might as well be good friends with myself and treat me with respect.

 

[vj288]

I would because I don't drop friends very easily, but beyond that technicality I'm not sure. I can be hard on myself and critical of things I do, but I wouldn't mind a friend who did that, I would rather that then being sugar coated everything. I sort of think I treat myself I want other people to treat me, at least in theory, so I even if I don't always treat myself the greatest if I had a friend who treated me this way I wouldn't want to discontinue such a friendship.

 

[SilentBird]

Incidentally, I am much more kind to other people than to myself.

 

[Nathália]

No. We could be just acquaintances but not have a true friendship.

We could have small talk, go out for coffee in the morning but as far as being involved no.

 

[Fighter86]

I probably wouldn't be friends with someone who treated me the way I treated myself. I beat myself up pretty bad verbally and I wouldn't allow anyone else to do that to me. I would tell the person off if I could. But in some cases where I can't due to whatever reason I would grit and bare it but ultimately when I can I would drop the person who had treated me so badly.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Such a good question. It reminds me that I need to start treating myself once again like I'm the most valuable thing Thanks!

If I had a friend who treated myself like I do, they would give me lots of great ideas, give me fabulous advice and do a lot of hard investigating when I have a problem that needs answers, wouldn't stop until they found a way for me. But when I would try and actually take positive steps they would tell me that change is too hard, that it doesn't exist to be happy, and always point out to me how uncomfortable, anxious, etc I am, tell me to turn back, maybe that I'd be better off as some addict or alcoholic because it sure would be easier. And when I'm anxious in a social situation, this person would just start to tear apart my every move and every move I ever made before or immediately after the situation!

I think it's important to actually describe how this person would treat you in every situation... Like that

So no I wouldn't be that person's friend... Not until they put more effort into valuing me when I'm unstable and trying the best I can.

 

[soandi]

Definitely not!
I think this kind of persons doesn't exist. If somebody treated me like i do, I think he doesn't wanna be my friend or he is really sick minded! :thumbdown:

I agree:

Such a good question. It reminds me that I need to start treating myself once again like I'm the most valuable thing Thanks!

 

[Flanscho]

Sure. I'm a great friend. Having another friend who'd be like me would be great.

Me1: Hey, nice to see you, want tea?
Me2: Sure, that would be great. Look, I brought cookies.
Me1: Oh I love those! Thanks.
Me2: Next time I bring along some tea as well, I don't want to drink up all yours.
Me1: Not necessary. Wanna game some?
Me2: Sure. Which game?
Me1: All great, you choose!
Me2: Ok then. Let's play this one.
Me1: Yeah we will defeat them!
Me2: Hurray!

 

[bcsr]

Totally would be friends with them.

 

[AdamE]

I'd like to say no, but considering what the guy I hung out with during most of upper secondary was like... Yeah, I probably would.