I need opinions please

cowboyup

cowboyup

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I need opinions please. This isn't a tremendously huge deal, but need others opinion...

Some of you know I posted a few days back about 'a certain someone' came back to town cuz his father recently passed away. Well, despite everything that had happened between him & I in the past, I tried to be nice & thoughtful as I know what he's going through ... Yeah I know, I'm WAY TOO nice ...

More to the point, he posted a notice on Facebook about a memorial service for his dad. Well, he told me he was posting it, but didn't tell me where or when.

Let me add this: I've been his shoulder to cry on all this time, picked him up at the airport & will be dropping him off as well. I've been there for him to text me on sleepless nights...etc...

Anyhow, had I not asked when & where is the memorial service, I would not have known as I do not do the Facebook thing and he's well aware of that. Finally, after asking when & where, he said to me, "you can come to the service if you want."

So, should I go? I mean since he didn't readily give me info & I ended up asking, maybe he doesn't want me there?

I don't know how to interpret it.
 
DeadmanWalking

DeadmanWalking

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Personal opinion? If you want to go to pay your respects, you can. There's nothing stopping you. But, if this is the same guy I think it is (I missed your last post), then just keep things professional and cordial. You can be a shoulder to cry on because everyone needs one sometimes, but put your foot down if you get the feeling that he's trying to push for more.

However, you can also choose to not go. If you don't feel comfortable about meeting him, then you don't have to go. It's all up to you. By saying, "you can come to the service if you want," he put the ball in your court. So he can't get upset or angry just because you did something that he didn't want you to do.
 
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jaim38

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You don't have to attend his dad's memorial service. I assume you don't even know his dad so why attend? Only family members and friends should attend. It would be awkward if you're there and everyone around you is crying/being sad, but you're just sitting there not feeling anything. And when someone comes up to you and ask, "do you know his dad?" How will you reply?

Let me add this: I've been his shoulder to cry on all this time, picked him up at the airport & will be dropping him off as well. I've been there for him to text me on sleepless nights...etc...
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He gave you a free iPad (from your last post), and you've already repaid him by doing all the above. You are not obligated to do anymore than this.
 
cowboyup

cowboyup

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jaim38 said:
You don't have to attend his dad's memorial service. I assume you don't even know his dad so why attend? Only family members and friends should attend. It would be awkward if you're there and everyone around you is crying/being sad, but you're just sitting there not feeling anything. And when someone comes up to you and ask, "do you know his dad?" How will you reply?



He gave you a free iPad (from your last post), and you've already repaid him by doing all the above. You are not obligated to do anymore than this.
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yeah, good point, jaim38. I don't know his dad, only met him once, but that's it.
Not like we hung out together, lol.
Thanks for your opinion. Gosh, I really need to get better at this 'human' thing....:eek:mg:
 
cowboyup

cowboyup

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DeadmanWalking said:
Personal opinion? If you want to go to pay your respects, you can. There's nothing stopping you. But, if this is the same guy I think it is (I missed your last post), then just keep things professional and cordial. You can be a shoulder to cry on because everyone needs one sometimes, but put your foot down if you get the feeling that he's trying to push for more.

However, you can also choose to not go. If you don't feel comfortable about meeting him, then you don't have to go. It's all up to you. By saying, "you can come to the service if you want," he put the ball in your court. So he can't get upset or angry just because you did something that he didn't want you to do.
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thanks Deadman, much appreciate your input here...yea, I met his dad once, but that's it. I don't think I'll be going...actually it'll probably end up being my 'friends' friends there cuz his dad knew the same people as his son....why put myself through hours of that! I wouldn't know anyone either...that would be very awkward for me :bigsmile:
 
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