I need help/tips on not freaking out when I talk to someone I like.

[makaila]

Every time I talk to someone I follow on tumblr, my heart starts racing and I feel like I'm going to throw up. I try to diffuse it, but I can't. It's petty conversation and I'm sitting here treating it like it really matters or something. I irritate myself because of how worked up I get but can't seem to control it. I want to be able to speak to people without feeling hesitant; feeling like I shouldn't. and when they don't respond I feel so thankful that the conversation is avoided because the back and forth makes my palm sweat and my heart race. but I'm also crushed because despite myself, I know that it could essentially be a great conversation. and it's worse in person. But I put on an act of faux confidence which has the person thinking I'm arrogant and reserved. when in reality, I'm uncomfortable. I need tips on learning to be more comfortable, and not spazzing when I try to initiate conversation.

 

[dyingtolive]

maybe just practice, you can test it out in this forum

i think if you're following someone, then its like u care about how ud be perceived. its natural... its tough.. i dont know who u follow, i have no twitter..

but wanting to be liked, feeling like u need to 'prove yourself'? maybe..

maybe try to just be sincere. dont try to pretend to be something you're not. just be honest and don't expect to be liked. just be genuine, don't desire anything from them like their approval etc. stop liking them so much lol. (u wouldnt follow them otherwise right) i guess just respect and honesty

 

[Sial Axetder]

Social Anxiety is a wonder thing is it not?

Learning to cope with it, fight it, is not easy. We will struggle more than anyone. All to simply be sociable.

Makaila, you can start by understanding the thoughts you have prior to potential conversation and during the conversation. You sound to be almost panicking or perhaps panicking in general.

A question for you, Makaila, why do you feel that way?

 

[Shyangel]

Great questions, Makaila. I wish I could give you answers to them, but I'm in the middle of this same battle. I will say that joking around in a manner you would with someone your more comfortable has helped me relax and be myself some.

 

[Chloegirl]

I so wish I had helpful advice. I struggle with the same symptoms when I approach a conversation. I panic if I run into someone I know, but have not seen in a long time. I either try my best to get out of the situation ASAP without the person seeing me or if I can't avoid the contact, my mind goes blank and I stumble to get a thought across. It's horrible. I can only take comfort in knowing others are in the same position and it's not just me. If I do come across helpful information, I will be back to let you know.

 

[da_illest101]

I think the best thing you can do is to not give it as much importance as you currently do. Try to not over think it. I know it's easier said than done, but that's all I got.