tooshytosay
Well-known member
To me, the truth is -
People are great. People in their purest, finest, unadulterated forms, are great to be with and to connect with. To me, a "pure" interaction between two human beings is something to be cherished - because let's face it, it's something incredibly rare in this world.
For what gets in the way of any social interaction is this ugly thing called culture. What do I mean by culture? I mean that unwritten set of rules, codes and expectations governing social interactions. When people interact, they don't just interact "ad hoc"; they interact in a particular way. And if you don't approach people in that particular way, then they'll give you wary and suspicious looks, then downright avoid you / reject you. They'll think of you as some sort "weirdo".
You might say, that in today's world, there really aren't many "rules" governing social interaction at all. Well that is completely untrue. The rules are there - oh yes, they are there. It's just that we take them for granted so much.
For example, you can't just talk about deep philosophical things straight off with someone you have just been introduced to. You first have to go through all the social niceties, and ramble on about some things that you don't care about.
During coffee break, or while gossiping at work, it is much more "appropriate" to talk about certain mundane things, in a certain appropriate way. Step outside of that box and they will once again give you that queer, "is he alright?" look.
You are expected to talk. Silence is a sin in today's culture. Today's culture does not appreciate the fact that people can bond without even saying a single word.
You are expected to be opinionated.
You are expected to have this thing called a "social life". Else you are a pretty low-worth human being. You are expected to have this "circle of friends" whose drama you talk about with other friends. Your plans for the weekend matter more than your intelligence or anything else.
Basically:
You can't just interact with people "however you want to". Society has set us up with "particular ways" with which to interact with others (and to live our life, actually). And frankly, I just hate those artificial constraints of culture.
You might say then what do I mean by a "pure" social interaction. Well, I think adults have a lot to learn from 2-to-3 year olds. They're just so truthful towards eachother. They don't sit around and gossip about certain things.
Or, think about being stranded on an island with someone else. You two have to co-operate in order to survive. What will develop (in my eyes anyway), is a true human connection where your shared humanity matters more than any of the trivialities "culture" imposes on us.
People are great. People in their purest, finest, unadulterated forms, are great to be with and to connect with. To me, a "pure" interaction between two human beings is something to be cherished - because let's face it, it's something incredibly rare in this world.
For what gets in the way of any social interaction is this ugly thing called culture. What do I mean by culture? I mean that unwritten set of rules, codes and expectations governing social interactions. When people interact, they don't just interact "ad hoc"; they interact in a particular way. And if you don't approach people in that particular way, then they'll give you wary and suspicious looks, then downright avoid you / reject you. They'll think of you as some sort "weirdo".
You might say, that in today's world, there really aren't many "rules" governing social interaction at all. Well that is completely untrue. The rules are there - oh yes, they are there. It's just that we take them for granted so much.
For example, you can't just talk about deep philosophical things straight off with someone you have just been introduced to. You first have to go through all the social niceties, and ramble on about some things that you don't care about.
During coffee break, or while gossiping at work, it is much more "appropriate" to talk about certain mundane things, in a certain appropriate way. Step outside of that box and they will once again give you that queer, "is he alright?" look.
You are expected to talk. Silence is a sin in today's culture. Today's culture does not appreciate the fact that people can bond without even saying a single word.
You are expected to be opinionated.
You are expected to have this thing called a "social life". Else you are a pretty low-worth human being. You are expected to have this "circle of friends" whose drama you talk about with other friends. Your plans for the weekend matter more than your intelligence or anything else.
Basically:
You can't just interact with people "however you want to". Society has set us up with "particular ways" with which to interact with others (and to live our life, actually). And frankly, I just hate those artificial constraints of culture.
You might say then what do I mean by a "pure" social interaction. Well, I think adults have a lot to learn from 2-to-3 year olds. They're just so truthful towards eachother. They don't sit around and gossip about certain things.
Or, think about being stranded on an island with someone else. You two have to co-operate in order to survive. What will develop (in my eyes anyway), is a true human connection where your shared humanity matters more than any of the trivialities "culture" imposes on us.
