I feel like I lose friends regularly

[greggy]

Hey beautiful peeps, im feeling more and more that I cant make friends and the ones I thought were my friends just end up ignoring me untill I get the message eventually that they no longer want anything to do with me, want the hell is wrong with me??? I always send messages to people ssying hi, and they never do that to me so its slways 1 sidded, ive lost all confidence in myself, now when I meet a person I instantly think they want to distance themselves from me.

I know ive got no hope right?:crying:

 

[MikeyC]

If you're comfortable, maybe you can ask one or two of them if there's something about you that's annoying them.

Otherwise, I think it all comes down to initiation. Neither wants to initiate, but both want to chat, so you're stuck at a stalemate. I have friends who are the same, so it just takes a bit of a mental push to keep in contact, if you want to.

 

[greggy]

Yeah thanks miky, basicly I stayed at his house for a week we had a great time I thought, since then ive messaged him twice and no reply, I can see that he is online but he's just ignoring me, this happends to me too offten to call it a coincidence

 

[Kiwong]

Even my imaginary friends give up on me.

 

[greggy]

Even my imaginary friends give up on me

I so know what you mean!

 

[VainCape]

Even my imaginary friends give up on me.

Not as bad as having your parents give up on you after just 6 months, and put you up for adoption. :kickingmyself:

 

[Kiwong]

Not as bad as having your parents give up on you after just 6 months, and put you up for adoption. :kickingmyself:

Yeah, that would be really rough. Did that happen to you?

 

[jaim38]

Hey beautiful peeps, im feeling more and more that I cant make friends and the ones I thought were my friends just end up ignoring me untill I get the message eventually that they no longer want anything to do with me, want the hell is wrong with me??? I always send messages to people ssying hi, and they never do that to me so its slways 1 sidded, ive lost all confidence in myself, now when I meet a person I instantly think they want to distance themselves from me.

I know ive got no hope right?:crying:

Am I the only one reading this and thinking this is not your fault? I mean, you actually took the initiative to stay in touch with your friends, but they were not responsive. Friendship, like all relationships, should be a 2 way street, not 1 way. Everyone involved has to cotnribute, otherwise it falls apart. Kudos to you for trying to keep in touch! At least you tried, but now you know these people are probably not worth being friends with.

 

[greggy]

Am I the only one reading this and thinking this is not your fault? I mean, you actually took the initiative to stay in touch with your friends, but they were not responsive. Friendship, like all relationships, should be a 2 way street, not 1 way. Everyone involved has to cotnribute, otherwise it falls apart. Kudos to you for trying to keep in touch! At least you tried, but now you know these people are probably not worth being friends with.

Yes that's a good point, but sf suferers will always blame themselves, I guess I see all the happy friendships around me and I wish I could have friends hat actually think about me and wunder how I am, I tell a lie I do have one, that's all I need right? Why do I want to be the most popular person in history? Like that scene from memois of the invisible man where he walks into the restuarant and everyone starts clapping and wanting to shake his hand hahaha! Why cant I be satisfied with just being who I am? mg:

 

[hoddesdon]

I lost one in the mall once. I searched high and low and even asked at the lost property office.

 

[goblin]

If you're comfortable, maybe you can ask one or two of them if there's something about you that's annoying them.

Otherwise, I think it all comes down to initiation. Neither wants to initiate, but both want to chat, so you're stuck at a stalemate. I have friends who are the same, so it just takes a bit of a mental push to keep in contact, if you want to.

Nothing to lose at this point. It does sound strange. Maybe it's a natural process of acquaintanceship not making it to a real friendship stage?

 

[S_Spartan]

Hey beautiful peeps, im feeling more and more that I cant make friends and the ones I thought were my friends just end up ignoring me untill I get the message eventually that they no longer want anything to do with me, want the hell is wrong with me??? I always send messages to people ssying hi, and they never do that to me so its slways 1 sidded, ive lost all confidence in myself, now when I meet a person I instantly think they want to distance themselves from me.

I know ive got no hope right?:crying:

Don't blame yourself. I think there are A LOT of people who are totally wrapped up in themselves now(selfie anyone?) and they are expecting to be around people who can dazzle and entertain them all the time. I don't think that many people really understand what a friendship is anymore.