girlinthecorner
Active member
For people who use dating sites or who are thinking about using them: Do you address your social phobia on the site? I feel like I should put that on my page since I feel like it's a really important part of me and I'd rather meet someone more like me or who would be okay with it. But I'm not sure if it's just too weird to let people know right away.
I had one guy write to me who I was interested in but then he immediately wanted to talk to me on the phone and I freaked out. I know I'd eventually have to try talking on the phone but I wasn't ready and didn't feel like I could just come out and tell him what the problem was since he thought I was just a normal girl. So, putting the weird things about me, like my phobias, seems like it would help and I feel like I'm lying about myself if I don't put that type of stuff.
Another thing I'm not sure if it's okay to put on my page is that I have a certain type of guy that I'm attracted to, like I don't date guys of my own race. It seems shallow to put that and a little racist, but it's a problem because that's the majority of who writes to me and I just don't want them wasting their time on me.
I had one guy write to me who I was interested in but then he immediately wanted to talk to me on the phone and I freaked out. I know I'd eventually have to try talking on the phone but I wasn't ready and didn't feel like I could just come out and tell him what the problem was since he thought I was just a normal girl. So, putting the weird things about me, like my phobias, seems like it would help and I feel like I'm lying about myself if I don't put that type of stuff.
Another thing I'm not sure if it's okay to put on my page is that I have a certain type of guy that I'm attracted to, like I don't date guys of my own race. It seems shallow to put that and a little racist, but it's a problem because that's the majority of who writes to me and I just don't want them wasting their time on me.