How does it all start? What causes the differences?

[xtina_fan81]

Is it the way we're brought up? Is it just in our brains? To me, people without SA are the odd ones, or the "different" ones; Are they just all more comfortable with themselves? Are they secure and us completely insecure? Or does outspoken mean even more insecure than us? How do they have better social skills? Do they? thinking outloud really, but something to discuss.

 

[mikestar]

Insecurity and cruel people who stare at us,call us names,laugh at us etc etc

Some people can say "who gives a shit" others dwell on it for years...

I feel "odd" like im from another planet

 

[zlench]

being constantly put down and failing at everything.

 

[shybhoy]

mostly it all stems from parental rejection or addiction to a substance...most parents from our experience are distant and cold there for we view everyone like that...your first love and your role models are your parents...how do you expect to react to that.....not confident and outgoing any way !!

 

[mikestar]

mostly it all stems from parental rejection or addiction to a substance...most parents from our experience are distant and cold there for we view everyone like that...your first love and your role models are your parents...how do you expect to react to that.....not confident and outgoing any way !!

True...I remember when I was young, My Dad used 2 get himself in a right panic over nothing,forever stressing out and shouting.

Also my Mum had problems before and after I was born

 

[LycraPantiies92]

^Stunnin pic if that's you btw =D...shybhoy
I am just not normal, i probably shouldn't have been born. xx

 

[shybhoy]

hehe its moi and no one is normal we are all human.....and its a blessing you and everyone else was born !! we are all here for a reason !! no one is useless... no one is ever that.....we are part of something called life and it all dishes us different shit !! and yes it hurts...but you bet your bottom dollar theres someone who relates and understands how it is for you !! and thats what makes us progress !!

 

[this_portrait]

I think there can be a variety of different causes, though genetics is at the top. I think, for many of us, there's just something different about our genes, and it can be inherited from a relative, or you could just happen to be born with it. SA is in your blood, and certain events in your life trigger it. Why else would we be this way? There are other people who may have gone through one or more of the same things as us, but they don't have SA at all.

That's just what I think.

 

[shybhoy]

it is true....children are holographic sponges and if their parents are generally negative and anxious or depressed then children soak that up and become a hologram of their parents...genetics play a tiny part but where do you get them from ?? oh dear your parents....

 

[Mikefly]

I think your just born with it.

 

[Septor]

I'm sure ,there's a lot of different things that can cause social anxity.A lot of it,has to do with genetics and upbringing. I'm sure in my case a lot of it was learned from my parents,especially mother.She was a shut in,never going out side and as far as i could remember,she never had any friends what so ever.Of coarse there's a variety of different factors we don't clearly understand that contributes to social anxiety too.Like they found premature babies or babies with very low birth weight,are more likely going to develop social behavior or anxiety later in there life,then a normal size baby.

 

[smff73]

Hmmm, you think it's genetic?

My two brothers and sister are incredibly popular, thoroughly decent people, who have no problems in social settings

 

[Rodney]

Hmmm, you think it's genetic?

My two brothers and sister are incredibly popular, thoroughly decent people, who have no problems in social settings

Just like any genetic disorder, if SAD is in fact genetic, it doesn't get passed on to everyone. So you may have just been the unfortunate one out of your siblings who got stuck with this curse.

 

[206Raider]

well both my parents suffered from depression and possibly more. My brother is very quiet but seems confident, he can get any girl he wants and girls throw themselves at him, excpt he hardly goes out. He's kinda like me but no girls throw themselves at me. My sister is talkative but nsecure nad very bi-polar with intense mood swings. All that plus the addition of a rough childhood and here I am

 

[InDeepshit]

My upbringing nurtured my introverted nature...because of an over protective paranoid parent and i was a passive child.... my parents didn't socialise either