how do you take criticism?

[pinkputter]

I feel like everyone with SA takes criticism so badly because we are all sensitive by nature. Being sensitive, of course, is a good thing. The world needs more sensitive people. But, when it gets in the way of day to day activities, it can be a bad thing.

Anyway, I have come to the conclusion that not only am I sensitive, but that people, for some reason, are extremely quick to criticize me. Like, we could be in a group of people, and some one say the very thing I said, which I got criticized for, and it all of a sudden be no big deal.

I am convinced people will criticize me and I never know how to take it.

What I wish, somehow, is that I'm like those people who nothing ever gets to them. Like they are addicted to all the good cycles (psychologically), if ya know what i mean. And for some reason I got addicted to the bad ones. Because I really feel that SA is an addiction to negativity. And I just don't know how to be addicted to the good.

 

[nicole1]

It matters on how the criticism is delivered for me. And if it has a point. My older brother, who can use quite a few pointers on his own life, seems to love to criticize me personaly. Like how short my hair is...or my weight...things like that. And the people I worked with who criticize me behind my back...

But I do welcome it in some areas...

And I agree with you. I had a boyfriend who criticized me heavily... I do feel a lot of people are quick to criticize and most of the time, I've done nothing wrong. I know I haven't b/c I'm careful around people. Most of the time it's personal...

So I guess I take some well, and some not so well at all.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

I think that SA sufferers place a great deal of importance on what others think of them. Many of us are constantly worried that our words and actions will be judged negatively by others, so any criticism will be taken to heart. Even if the criticism is constructive in nature it can be hard take the positive from it, because it so much more in our nature to only hear the negative.

 

[Luke1993]

I'll admit yes I take it very badly

 

[stef]

when someone criticizes me the first thing i think is, "oh man, i wonder how long they have thought those bad thoughts about me. they must have been holding it in and hating me all this time until they couldn't keep it to themselves anymore."

 

[ILovePocky]

I usually feel like whoever is criticizing me is pointing out all my faults.

Because I really feel that SA is an addiction to negativity.

I totally agree. It's so hard to be positive though.

 

[Predacon]

It depends on the situation and the person. Sometimes I can take it very well, other times it might be about something tiny like not putting the cap back on the milk properly and I just see red for no reason and get defensive which tends to escalate things for no good reason.

 

[EscapeArtist]

It's hard to say and largely depends on how I'm doing . If I'm feeling well then nobody can negatively affect me. I realize that it is their issue and I'm simply a way to project that. Then I actually feel BETTER that i'm able to do such. So it lifts me up a little bit. ha
If I'm feeling ****ty then everything feels like criticism. Sometimes I accuse back and that's a mistake. Other times just go to room and cry, if we're talking direct personal criticism. If less direct then I know it's just me that's off and detecting it as criticism, try to fight thoughts. Again, all has to do with state of health

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

It depends. If its structured and I know the person is trying to help and for my benefit, I may get defensive initally but I can calm and understand. But sometimes critisim is just bad... not helpful, and sometimes that can be how you feel and thus interpret it but... yeah. Overall IN THE MOMENT I take it poorly.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

I haven't been criticized in ages. I have had what I would consider feedback, but I know that the person is either overly stressed about something or they want me to learn to be more proactive / communicative etc. So I always ask myself why the person is unhappy, and whether I can take anything away from the experience.

 

[Kiwong]

I'm sensitive and don't take it very well. I used to be in a writers workshop and this was a good way to leanr to give and recieve criticism.

 

[Alejandro]

It's like a knife going through my heart