I always have the feeling of being inferior to everyone, doesn't matter what you look like, do for a living or anything ...I just feel like no-one ..i was in and out of foster care as a child as my mum had mental health problems and was abusive. I was always aware the people i was living with didn't love me and i didn't love them..i was in 12 different homes in total, my mum was murdered when i was 15 so i have no parents, i have serious trouble working out who i am and getting some kind of identity ..i can talk to anyone laugh with anyone but its false i can't let people into my life because i don't know who i am, from living with so many different families you have to change your personality for each one they all have different rules, expectations, humour .....I am an empty shell...any tips on working out who you are and to be confident your personality is your own and you are not acting ..or maybe i will be confused Amy forever, maybe thats who i am :S
How do you know who you are?
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jonas89
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I cant imagine how it's going through all that Amy.
I wish I could tell you something wise and give you the right tools to make things easier for you to find who you really are,
but Im optimist for everyone
I know you'll find yourself sooner or later,
Hope for the best for you.
Im always frank for chat if you would like
I wish I could tell you something wise and give you the right tools to make things easier for you to find who you really are,
but Im optimist for everyone
I know you'll find yourself sooner or later, Hope for the best for you.
Im always frank for chat if you would like
Iluv
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Aw that is so sad :
: . I think that would be the best way to find out who you are is to start surrounding yourself with people who you are comfortable with and will let you be who you really are.I know it's hard at first but I was a lot like you but then I met my now boyfriend and he helped me start to get to know myself better because I didn't have to put on a front to please him.
MikeyC
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Wow, what a difficult upbringing you've had. I'm so sorry to hear that.
Obviously, by going from family to family, you have had to change so much in an instant, so it's hard to identify who you actually are. All I can suggest is doing things you enjoy and that can be who you are. We are all defined by our jobs (unfortunately) and our hobbies (fortunately). If you can hone in on what your hobbies are, that will define you.
I hope your life is a lot more stable now, Amy.
Obviously, by going from family to family, you have had to change so much in an instant, so it's hard to identify who you actually are. All I can suggest is doing things you enjoy and that can be who you are. We are all defined by our jobs (unfortunately) and our hobbies (fortunately). If you can hone in on what your hobbies are, that will define you.
I hope your life is a lot more stable now, Amy.
sullyS25
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Just saw this headline and a quote came to mind.....sorry if it is of no help.....I like it though and hey it made me laugh when I first heard it.
"Today, a young man on acid realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration – that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively. There's no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we're the imagination of ourselves. Here's Tom with the weather."
"Today, a young man on acid realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration – that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively. There's no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we're the imagination of ourselves. Here's Tom with the weather."
Mr.Prez
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*hug* I'm so sorry to hear that. You're not an empty shell.
I have had huge issues with figuring out who I actually am; I think it goes back to figuring out what you like and don't like. Maybe try this... it kind of works for me. I found it in a book called "5 secrets you must know before you die"
Usually everyone's tired at the end of the day. Sometimes you're pleasantly tired and other times you're just tired. At the end of the day, try to figure out if you're plesantly tired or just tired. When you're pleasantly tired, try to remember what you did during the day. The things that you did on days that you're pleasantly tired are things that you like and enjoy doing.
Nanita
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Nanita
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* HUG * It is natural to feel like this, having difficulties with life and finding it impossible to know who you are, to know your identity - because your early life was completely rootless, unstable and chaotic.
I also feel I don´t know "who or what I am supposed to be". This also has to do with a weird childhood. I´m just trying to exist right now, without creating more mess for myself - the self-knowledge might come later, or maybe it will never come, okay, then that´s just how it is.
sullyS25
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Yeeeaaahhhhhhh...lovely that was Bill Hicks
hahaha I am glad someone noticed what it was! Thank you Nanita!
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Don't measure yourself to other people standards. You are not "them" and they can never measure up to you. Neither can "they" measure up to yours and they shouldn't. We you really see this and believe it your inferior feelings will vanish ....
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