How do I tell my family about my SA??

[LonelyWonders]

I've tried to tell my parents directly about it and i've tried to tell them indirectly.. I couldn't do the first one and the second one made them tell me exactly what they THINK SA is.. and now because of that i'm really to afraid to tell them I tried to tell my mom this morning when she drove me to school because she was telling me to get a job and I don't know if I can. I can hardly handle school, i'm almost going to fail because of the time i've missed... And i'm really nervous about just trying to tell them, I wanted to get therapy and have the therapist tell them.. but that idea was shattered because of their idea's on mental disorders..

Can anybody give me some tips for telling atleast my mother??

 

[Darryl]

Hi LonelyWonders,

Some people need time to take it in, so I would tell her without forcing it down her throat.

Maybe she will feel at blame therefore will find it hard to accept, so give her time to take it in.

Even if you have a rocky relationship with you mother, this is the time for calm- even if she's refuses to understand, keep calm.

Also have a chat to the guidance councilor someone to chat to during the day.

Take care Darryl

 

[LonelyWonders]

Well thats the thing, i'm just to nervous to even spit out the words. I've known my mother for many years.. (that part was a joke).. and I am afraid she will just laugh at me or something.. (that part wasn't).. I'm afraid that she will have the same thoughts on the subject as my dad.. and that it could end badly for me to tell her and only make my SA worse...

 

[Darryl]

It's going to raise you anxiety and SA regardless, that why I say you have to handle it in a calm manner.

Also talking to a guidance councillor would also give you some professional advice also.

Can you explain your feelings to mum & dad in the same room?

 

[LonelyWonders]

No.. I couldn't, but I don't think that I will say it to my dad.. He'd just make rude comments and jokes and make me angry and sad.. and just make things worse...

 

[Darryl]

Mum it is then...

I think you know what you have to do, but just need a little push of confidence and to know it's going to work out alright.

What would nice for you and your mother is not in the car to school too many distractions- find a quiet time to talk.

Like I said the anxiety and SA will be raised so understand that,know it and expect it (think I made my point) keep calm and don't raise your voice- and your mum will have a lot to think about so don't expect answers straight away.

Ask If she could take you to your family doctor to find more on SA- This way she will feel included and learn a little about the disorder.

 

[LonelyWonders]

Well she took a college course in psycology. So she does know about the disorder.

and ya.. your right.. im just afraid =\.

 

[Darryl]

It's OK to be afraid, that's a perfect emotion.

Have you notice how the SA has only allowed you to give small things away about yourself?

Well, your giving more away about yourself than usual.

Sure your mother may know about SA but that also depends on far your mother got in pychology!

 

[LonelyWonders]

She got her associates, and she'll be getting her bachlors soon.

And what do you mean?

 

[popolala]

My mother and my family can tell i have social anxiety by the way i behave in family gathering.. i dont even have to tell them. Its obvious. Maybe go shopping with your mum, and just tell her what you struggle with and you heard therapy help and your mother should support you. so just go for it!

Your probably aint really that bad, as you think. Since your family couldnt tell, which is a good thing anyways.

 

[Phoenixx]

I've always wondered how to tell my family about my SA too. They know that I've always been very shy, but I don't think they even know what SA is. What's really holding me back from telling them is just fear. I'm afraid that they'll just ignore the problem, think it's just shyness and that I have to get over it, when really it's something much more.

 

[Darryl]

Well she took a college course in psycology. So she does know about the disorder.

Hi LonelyWonders,
I wasn't sure how comprehesive this course was that's all (wasn't being rude)

Just wanted you to understand the reaction you may or maynot get, for example- the more she knows about SA, the more understanding she will have.

Darryl