How do I move on, letting go from a guy that doesn't really care about me

[CrazyGirl]

The final straw took place when he was obsessively texting with whomever he was "talking" to on the phone in front of his family, his kids and me. During the the 9hrs., I was with him around his family, he barely paid any attention to me. :: It sure didn't set a very good example to his kids the way he was treating me. He even had the nerve to flirt with another woman he knew that he saw when we were eating at a restaurant. Shortly before I left, I made a few comments about his texting. Not trying to come off being jealous I asked him what was so important and his response that he was just trying to figure stuff out.
It wouldn't hurt me so bad if I actually had a support of friends and meeting guys came naturally for me. The worst part of it all, he has been the only guy who ever really took an interest in my life and for us to do things together. Because of my SA and mild deafness, its extremely difficult to go out and meet people. Now, I feel lonely and depressed. I never knew what it was like being with someone until I met him. With him texting nonstop in front of me, his family, especially the kids barely paying any attention to me, I found it very rude and disrespectful.

 

[Section_31]

CG,

Your not unreasonable at all here. Some people have no boundaries when it comes to that and your right, it IS rude and disrespectful. My dad always takes work phone calls in any situation and it drives us bananas. I feel your pain.

You deserve so much better than this guy. Im sorry *hugs*

 

[kinghatred]

Me and the girl I like are having a infinite "cold war" right now, she started to avoiding me all of a sudden because she doesn't like me but doesn't know how to explain it, so she just decide to avoid me altogether. Well, since she sit right in front of me in class so she pretty much knows what I'm doing all the time. I have a good female friend sitting besides me, since I got "rejected", I've been talking with her a lot. And somehow I started to notice whenever I had a good conversation with my female friend, that girl I like doesn't look very happy.

She also has social anxiety before, and she said she never dated with anyone and nobody had ever done so much nice things to her like I did. I thought she liked me for a second, but I realized it was just a misinterpretation from me. Since she started to avoiding me, I started to ignore her too. I usually go talk to her whenever I got chance, but now I just try to act as cold as possible. Even though deep inside I still care, but I act totally indifferent on the outside.

And after I saw your post, I'm just wondering if she's feeling the same way.

Well, you are trying to get over a guy, and I'm trying to get over a girl, at least we got that part similar lol

 

[Newtype]

There are no tricks to moving on. Moving on is always tough and only time helps. We all go through it.

I wouldn't tolerate someone doing that to me, especially among other people. You might not think that way, but I'm sure you'll find someone better. Deaf or mildly deaf girls like you are super cute. It is known.

 

[nafadda]

my advice:

humans are NOT an endangered species ...dump his classless A**....he will only get worse and doesn't have a bit of class or respect towards you from what you described.

 

[Hoppy]

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[voodoochild16]

The final straw took place when he was obsessively texting with whomever he was "talking" to on the phone in front of his family, his kids and me. During the the 9hrs., I was with him around his family, he barely paid any attention to me. :: It sure didn't set a very good example to his kids the way he was treating me. He even had the nerve to flirt with another woman he knew that he saw when we were eating at a restaurant. Shortly before I left, I made a few comments about his texting. Not trying to come off being jealous I asked him what was so important and his response that he was just trying to figure stuff out.
It wouldn't hurt me so bad if I actually had a support of friends and meeting guys came naturally for me. The worst part of it all, he has been the only guy who ever really took an interest in my life and for us to do things together. Because of my SA and mild deafness, its extremely difficult to go out and meet people. Now, I feel lonely and depressed. I never knew what it was like being with someone until I met him. With him texting nonstop in front of me, his family, especially the kids barely paying any attention to me, I found it very rude and disrespectful.

I understand that his family is disrespectful to you, and it's hard to accept even though the truth is they do that because it's all a misunderstanding. But always remember that something like that caused by social anxiety is not your fault. And the best thing that ever happened to me was getting rejected by the opposite sex, I was able to learn from it, and now I am more and more capable of handling it when it happens again. If you don't end up getting connected with this guy again, trust me and know deep inside your heart that no matter what, love has a way of finding you. I think this guy found you, so if your in the all the right places then another guy will come along, trust me. Hope it all works out.

 

[CrazyGirl]

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Explained our relationship very well. I thought as long as I gave him what he "wanted", he'll stick around and communicate with me. While I was his "prize" and had me with him, the was a wall between us.

I understand that his family is disrespectful to you, and it's hard to accept even though the truth is they do that because it's all a misunderstanding. But always remember that something like that caused by social anxiety is not your fault. And the best thing that ever happened to me was getting rejected by the opposite sex, I was able to learn from it, and now I am more and more capable of handling it when it happens again. If you don't end up getting connected with this guy again, trust me and know deep inside your heart that no matter what, love has a way of finding you. I think this guy found you, so if your in the all the right places then another guy will come along, trust me. Hope it all works out.

His family was respectful and nice to me. It was him, the guy I was with that was being a jerk ignoring me and texting nonstop. I've tried and tried getting guys to notice me and ask me out. I honestly don't know what it is. So, now I'm really depressed and lonely. I could care less if I died today. Seriously.

 

[MikeyC]

There are no tricks to moving on. Moving on is always tough and only time helps. We all go through it.

Pretty much. Everyone deals with it differently.

my advice:

humans are NOT an endangered species ...dump his classless A**....he will only get worse and doesn't have a bit of class or respect towards you from what you described.

100%.

Texting in front of you is so rude and I hate it when people who aren't my partners do that to me. There WILL be other guys out there - ones that will respect you and treat you with the kindness and compassion you deserve.

 

[Thelema]

He doesn't sound worth your time. If you brought it up and he brushed it off, he isn't interested in your feelings very much--and if he isn't interested in your feelings he can walk himself off a cliff.