Bronson99
Well-known member
First off, if you don't like self-deprecation, this isn't for you I'll keep it mild, nonetheless.
I won't get into details, but suffice it to say, most things in my life are broken. I'm aware of how much worse it could be, but also aware of the demands of our society. At some point it became a requirement to either have confidence because you earned it, or (as with the average guy) fake it and project it even if you didn't earn it. No matter the case, you still have to act like the world would stop if you somehow disappeared tomorrow, and only once you do that will opportunity (of many different stripes) arise. I would suggest this requirement is more demanding for men, but I don't want to get to political, I don't want flame wars. Really all I offer you here is my impressions.
As for myself, you can start with the shyness and insecurity, continue on to the lack of accomplishments, poor social skills and anxiety, and so on. But even with all those problems, there is one that continues to bother me, and that is the lack of any contact with women. Never had a girlfriend, no intimate encounters, and all that jazz. And I just turned 32. What brought this issue back up to the fore, I suppose, is my only friend (also 32) broke this curse about a month ago.. and his newfound relationship continues. He's mentioned the carnal relations he's had with this girl in his car, 2-3x per week, and obviously, I'm envious. That's right, before this came up, he never had a girlfriend either.
And at the same time I'm envious, there is no flipside: I am not happy for him. This might suggest to some I'm one dark, hateful person, but there's moral complications in this relationship. I will elaborate if anyone's interested.
Back to myself.. is it possible to meet a woman, is it worth even trying, when you're broken?
I won't get into details, but suffice it to say, most things in my life are broken. I'm aware of how much worse it could be, but also aware of the demands of our society. At some point it became a requirement to either have confidence because you earned it, or (as with the average guy) fake it and project it even if you didn't earn it. No matter the case, you still have to act like the world would stop if you somehow disappeared tomorrow, and only once you do that will opportunity (of many different stripes) arise. I would suggest this requirement is more demanding for men, but I don't want to get to political, I don't want flame wars. Really all I offer you here is my impressions.
As for myself, you can start with the shyness and insecurity, continue on to the lack of accomplishments, poor social skills and anxiety, and so on. But even with all those problems, there is one that continues to bother me, and that is the lack of any contact with women. Never had a girlfriend, no intimate encounters, and all that jazz. And I just turned 32. What brought this issue back up to the fore, I suppose, is my only friend (also 32) broke this curse about a month ago.. and his newfound relationship continues. He's mentioned the carnal relations he's had with this girl in his car, 2-3x per week, and obviously, I'm envious. That's right, before this came up, he never had a girlfriend either.
And at the same time I'm envious, there is no flipside: I am not happy for him. This might suggest to some I'm one dark, hateful person, but there's moral complications in this relationship. I will elaborate if anyone's interested.
Back to myself.. is it possible to meet a woman, is it worth even trying, when you're broken?