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0neBIGZER0

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I am new here, and I came to this site for sheer desperation. I have SP as well, I am alone, and barely hanging on. I red some of your intros...and I know a few of you are truly blessed in sense you have kids, boy friend or girl friend, and other friends. Me never had any relationship. I guess I don't deserve it. I am crying out for help but now I am 40 and alone help might not turn the clock.
I always wanted to do regular things go out on a date, talk to her on phone at night, walk along a lake to in a mall holding her hand ....I never said I LOVE YOU and I never heard I LOVE YOU..I wanted to by girl a present or give her something nice on New Years eve. Are these things too much to ask?

I never had been on New Years Eve party, Thanksgiving or any party for that matter.

I cry sometimes, but I am at the end of my ropes so I can’t even cry for long.

I know I never asked for this life but the crap that I have been through...I would not wish that to anyone.

May be one day my pain will ease and I'll close my eyes for good in a distant place.

I wish I had something nice to say...but I don't.

It hurts me so bad when I go outside and see people hanging out, picnics, and movies etc. It pains me so much when I see a pretty girl but I have to remind my self that it is o.k. just turn you head and walk away.
 
Johno

Johno

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This is a rather normal response...... It is rather typical of someone suffering from social phobia. I suggest you try and make small steps... For example, say yes more often.... Saying yes should lead you to other problems..... LOL ... I'll get back to you///
 
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metallica2147

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Even though i'm just 18, I think I'm heading to where you are as well. At least when you're young you have you're family and have to go to school so you're around people. Once you get older, it's "easier" to be by yourself because you can just go to work and get home and that's it. I hate seeing people laughing and having fun as I walk to class. It reminds me of what I don't have. And probably never will.
 
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Feathers

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Hi B! Yeah, it can suck, especially if you are young and maybe 'there is something in the air' (Spring or such.. )

Many people here or other shy/SA people have felt like this at one point in their life, or several times.. Some of those I think got happily married too, or at least got dates and boyfriends/girlfriends..
lol Johno, saying yes can get you in problems too lol!! :D

There are books you can read and steps you can take.
For communication and learning self confidence and even learning how to flirt and date etc.

Every person has something valuable to show to the world, maybe you just need to discover it first, and then learn to let the rest of the world see it too..

Depends how old you are too.. At some age/s or in some countries, it may be more difficult for guys to get girls, as girls may be too young or such, or there may be too many guys in China etc (so maybe they can look for brides internationally?).. Some guys (or girls) can mature really well and then become attractive!!
 
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0neBIGZER0

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kylesesh said:
Mate it will all be ok... You'll find your one true love soon.
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Its not the woman or never had the women. TIts the point what caused that to happen.

Women, wife, girlfriend, and sex all that very basics of life, what hurts me is how some are prevented to have relationship...

Arn't I a human being, don't I have the basics needs? That's the point...
Its like god gave eyes but prevent me to see, I have the money but not allowed to buy something...It's that I have the brain and can understand things (to some degree but) not alowed understand the man and women relationship.
 
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0neBIGZER0

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Feathers,

The books are not the solutions when you were subject to rejection, not allowed to play with other kids but only made you watch them....think about that. when you were not aloowed to sit with rest of the family...and called all kinds of name by mother and siblings. Mothee is the core of man's relationsship with women when your mother treated you like whiopping boy then you grow up without learning what relationship is and how to develop a relationship with a women.....
 
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0neBIGZER0

Member
thanks Erick.

yeah I guess that's just how it is....I think I am gonna move into Reservation out in the desert somewhere atleast I will not have to see life.

I can sit in my trailer out there and won't be depressed.

I feel like Andy Dufresne in Shawshank Redemption Sentenced for life without perole. Innocent of the crime.
 
Sial Axetder

Sial Axetder

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Waiting for something is nothing. That's what I was doing, and its worked out well so far for not working.

The easiest part is wanting change. Then comes the hard part, getting it done. While getting it done you must, you must accept it. Do not let go.

I like to think I am at the hardest part - getting it done. Working on it.
 
Ignace

Ignace

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Welcome here. :)
Maybe I'll post something here later about this, I'm not in a good mood to talk.
 
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