help?...

[jigglypuff]

I know saturday is only 2 days away but i'm still trying to decide whether to go to the movies or not... a friend invited me to go with him to the movies at first I was thinking that okay it's just going to be me and him but then he started mentioning all these other people that I don't talk to and I now don't really want to go because I know i'm going to be quiet and I already know that those people think i'm weird cause I never talk i'm like that invisible person in the background (I actually like to be that person cause then I don't have to socialize) but I don't want to cancel on my friend for he has been really nice to me but if I do go then he will probably be expecting me to socialize with his other friends...
I don't know what to do I don't want my anxiety to get the best of me even though it always dose...

 

[Sora]

Just go! You don't know what he is "expecting" and if he finds it a problem that you never socialised much...tell him you were in the cinema...a cinema for christ sake...you can't talk in a cinema. That's why I have always said a cinema is a stupid place for a date. It would be like dating in a library.

Sure your going to a social thing at the movies but ur not expected to talk much as you and others will be watching the movie and anyone talking will just be annoying!

It's ok to be quiet in groups, I've done it my whole life. If people think you are weird for it then they just don't understand. The weird thing here to me is being "expected" to socialise at a place your supposed to be quiet...lol

 

[DeadmanWalking]

You should probably go, if only because it'll challenge you to overcome your anxiety. It's okay to be scared, but don't let your fear hold you back from anything. And, if your friend expects you to do anything (which they shouldn't), then remember that you don't have to live up to others' expectations; you don't owe anyone anything. However, if someone does try to talk to you, follow the conversation and see where it goes; you might get a new friend in it:thumbup:. If you start to feel stumped or become lost, then don't feel afraid to let the person know that you're not good at conversation and they should help you get comfortable.

Good luck.

 

[rosewood]

I know for the longest time I tried to explain to my friends what was wrong, but I just never had the right words. SO they would always think that I just didn't like them when I didn't show up to events or parties. So give the guy half a chance if you can manage it, and do go. It is a movie, you won't have talk during the movie because that's bad manners. That will be the majority of the time, perhaps, and if that's all you can manage- make polite excuses and say it was great meeting all of you but I have to run, I totally forgot about this project I have due. Or some other very considerate white lie to get you out of there. But try to talk even if it is just a little bit. Good Luck.

 

[jaim38]

Going to the movies is better than, say, going to a restaurant. It'll be dark plus you don't need to worry about talking to fill in awkward silences. One thing that I don't like is sitting in the front. One time I went with a group of people to the movies and I told them I wanted to sit at the back so that's what I did. The people around were looking at me like I'm crazy. Sitting at the front means having to arch my neck to look at the screen, which is uncomfortable, plus sitting this close is bad for the eyes. Also at the back I can go to the restroom and do whatever without disturbing others.

 

[Sial Axetder]

Just go! You don't know what he is "expecting" and if he finds it a problem that you never socialised much...tell him you were in the cinema...a cinema for christ sake...you can't talk in a cinema. That's why I have always said a cinema is a stupid place for a date. It would be like dating in a library.

Sure your going to a social thing at the movies but ur not expected to talk much as you and others will be watching the movie and anyone talking will just be annoying!

It's ok to be quiet in groups, I've done it my whole life. If people think you are weird for it then they just don't understand. The weird thing here to me is being "expected" to socialise at a place your supposed to be quiet...lol

Sora is right with those two, bold words. AvPD, you can't sit around and wonder. That's the mistake. Just go!