Help?

[airkarl81]

Hello i cannot stop thinking about my dad dieing. i think of all the great times weve had and i cry, he is 53 im only 14 and i do not want to lose him forever! but i know one day i will and it will be so hard! its a terrible feeling but now writing this i am becoming to feel way better! i hope my dad never leaves me because i love him so much!! but y do i feel this way?!!? i hate it!! ill just randomly think that my dad will be dieing soon its terrible! someone help me? or is there no help?

 

[MollyBeGood]

awe...I Lost my Dad 2009. Just make sure you let him know while he's alive, how much u love him which is obvious and beautiful.

I worry all the time about loosing my dog

 

[airkarl81]

): how does it feel now that hes gone? im soo scareed i do not want it to EVER happen ):

 

[Roman Legion]

I love Star Trek because you walk away thinking and questioning things, it really teaches you some good lessons.. Star Wars is good, but I respect Star Trek much more..

"Someone once told me that time was a predator that stalked us all our lives, but I rather believe that time is a companion who goes with us on the journey and reminds us to cherish every moment because they'll never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we've lived. After all, Number One, we're only mortal."

I am 22 and my father is 52, I worry about this as well.. I try to make the most of the time I have with him, in the end we are the sum of our memories, monetary gain is not important to me, neither is power.. What I do is treat him to things he likes, go places with him or try to bring him along when I go places he might enjoy a free trip out of and hope in the end I feel I have made the most of the time we were given. I cannot talk to many people outside the house due to my selective mutism (SM), but I think it has made me closer to him, even if he is in denial about my SM.

 

[Iluv]

We cannot predict when somebody we love will be gone. The more we obsess over it the more we find it can hurt us. The worrying I can feel is hurting you more than anything. Try to let it go and cherish these moments in the present, don't jump ahead to the future. You're still young, as so is your father.
Tell him how much you love him now. Make memories now. This is the time in your life you should.

 

[airkarl81]

thanks! im trying so hard not to think of it, my mom and dad are divorced and i live with my mom. i see my dad almost everyday but when i come home to moms at night i cry because i dont know what well happen to him this just started happening. i think of how i wish he would be younger and he would live alot longer and i just cry.

 

[Roman Legion]

Yet another great Star Trek quote that helps me sometimes, very sound advice..

"Thinking about what you can't control only wastes energy, and creates its own enemy. "

 

[coyote]

53 is not that old

assuming his health is good, he could very well live until you are his age

that's less than 40 years from now

when you're 53, he'll be 92

lots of people live past that

 

[airkarl81]

ya know your right i think i just gota talk to him about this. i love him alot, we were in the car just the other day and he asked me why i dont wear my seatbelt what if we get in an accident and die i looked at him and replied because itll be easier that way. i just never want to lose him. i also have been wondering if their is an afterlife after we die! it is really bugging me. :\

 

[O'Killian]

My parents were on up in years when they had me. They're pushing 60 now and not in the best of health. I do worry about my mother from time to time (largely irrationally), so I can sympathize at least a bit.

Fact of it is everybody's going to die someday - suddenly or not. Worrying about it too much is just going to make life less pleasant. I think talking to him about it is a great idea. Having a heart-to-heart conversation should be a good step towards accepting this harsh reality.

 

[Srijita52]

We cannot predict when somebody we love will be gone. The more we obsess over it the more we find it can hurt us. The worrying I can feel is hurting you more than anything. Try to let it go and cherish these moments in the present, don't jump ahead to the future. You're still young, as so is your father.
Tell him how much you love him now. Make memories now. This is the time in your life you should.

I agree with it. Its hard not to worry but we never know what's going to happen. So try not think about it too much and yeah, talking to him about it seems great. Try to relax and show that you love him while you still can