dazzle7819
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help me...!!!
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Re: pleasssssse see this...... help me...!!!
well this is my advice might be work for you ,i think you should trust yourself. Build your confidance. tell your mind to stop interrupt your life!
maybe it's not just about that, maybe you're not like to be popular. you like to be ordinary student. you realized that if you good in everythings in school you will be popular. it's happen to me when i was in my high school. if this your problem i can't give you an advice because i can't find my solution too.hehe
Don't even think what they'll think about you. it'll make you feel free!
well this is my advice might be work for you ,i think you should trust yourself. Build your confidance. tell your mind to stop interrupt your life!
maybe it's not just about that, maybe you're not like to be popular. you like to be ordinary student. you realized that if you good in everythings in school you will be popular. it's happen to me when i was in my high school. if this your problem i can't give you an advice because i can't find my solution too.hehe
Don't even think what they'll think about you. it'll make you feel free!
First, welcome to the site.
Second, that just about perfectly describes me back when I was 17 (2 years ago). That's definitely social anxiety and not just shyness. I've actually pretty much rid myself of SA entirely over the last 2 years, so I should have an idea of how to actually go about doing that. I wish there was some magical, one-shot solution I could tell you about, but there's not. The keyword is confidence, and confidence is only gained over time. Exactly where you get that confidence is up to you.
In my case, I managed to get myself a girlfriend 2 years ago (met her on this site). We talked about our problems with each other and helped each other through our SA. Once I had her, I no longer felt the need to concern myself with what other people think of me. Thus, I had confidence to go out and do other things. Of course, it took me at least a little bit of confidence to get the girlfriend in the first place, and where I got that, I have no idea.
That's just my story, though. I'm sure some other people would have different advice.
Second, that just about perfectly describes me back when I was 17 (2 years ago). That's definitely social anxiety and not just shyness. I've actually pretty much rid myself of SA entirely over the last 2 years, so I should have an idea of how to actually go about doing that. I wish there was some magical, one-shot solution I could tell you about, but there's not. The keyword is confidence, and confidence is only gained over time. Exactly where you get that confidence is up to you.
In my case, I managed to get myself a girlfriend 2 years ago (met her on this site). We talked about our problems with each other and helped each other through our SA. Once I had her, I no longer felt the need to concern myself with what other people think of me. Thus, I had confidence to go out and do other things. Of course, it took me at least a little bit of confidence to get the girlfriend in the first place, and where I got that, I have no idea.
That's just my story, though. I'm sure some other people would have different advice.
Prestonator
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I think maybe if your friends don't understand exactly how you feel it may be difficult for them to help you deal with your social anxiety when at school. Do you have any close friends you could confide in? I personally found it easier telling a few of my closer friends about my issues.
As with the games, who cares about what people think of you? Does it really matter to you that much that you won't spend time with your mates just because of the fear of others making judgements? I used to have a lot of issues surrounding others judging me, but then I just learnt to accept that I shouldn't care so much what people think about me. If they don't like certain things that I do then it is their problem not mine, isn't it? I am who I am. You're who you are. But your social phobia I would say is not really a part of who you are deep down, would you agree?
The best way to try to deal with social phobias are to change your mindset. Try to think differently about things. Tell yourself that being shy/anxious is not necessary.
Hope this helps. Good luck
As with the games, who cares about what people think of you? Does it really matter to you that much that you won't spend time with your mates just because of the fear of others making judgements? I used to have a lot of issues surrounding others judging me, but then I just learnt to accept that I shouldn't care so much what people think about me. If they don't like certain things that I do then it is their problem not mine, isn't it? I am who I am. You're who you are. But your social phobia I would say is not really a part of who you are deep down, would you agree?
The best way to try to deal with social phobias are to change your mindset. Try to think differently about things. Tell yourself that being shy/anxious is not necessary.
Hope this helps. Good luck
Aussie_Lad
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Look up the term "Love shyness".
As for sport, I can't really give any recommendations, but noone expects you to be perfect at sport at an amateur / school level. Can you do any training that you can do without committing to playing games? That will help you get back on your feet and get your skill level up before you have to worry about the game play itself. Elite athletes also do a lot of mental training without lifting a muscle, if you can build up images of playing a game in your head and all the moves that you are going to make, then it becomes a lot easier when you do it for real because then your brain has lots of mental images to refer back to.
As for sport, I can't really give any recommendations, but noone expects you to be perfect at sport at an amateur / school level. Can you do any training that you can do without committing to playing games? That will help you get back on your feet and get your skill level up before you have to worry about the game play itself. Elite athletes also do a lot of mental training without lifting a muscle, if you can build up images of playing a game in your head and all the moves that you are going to make, then it becomes a lot easier when you do it for real because then your brain has lots of mental images to refer back to.
Section_31
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I have to agree with Pyro on his points. Pretty much the same situation with me, meeting my wife who has really bad S/A changed me, for the better, and her as well.
You could always try takling to some of the girls on here. We definately have some hotties hiding on SPW!