HELP ME. I have a phobia!

[lonely1979]

How on earth do you meet someone when you have a rejection phobia.
I am terribly lonley and miserable but I find it difficult to meet people.
I was married for ten years and I am now divorced but finding it difficult to get back on the horse so to speak!

 

[Luke1993]

Well this is purely speaking in theory (as I'm very lonely myself) but the idea is you put yourself in situations where there is low risk/low chance of getting rejected, you expose yourself lightly, then slowly build yourself up by putting yourself in harder situations until you conquer the phobia! That's the gist if it. And welcome to the forums by the way!

 

[Kingdave]

yeh i hate rejection but i guess ill have to agree with ^^ that guy

 

[Aussie_Lad]

Work on your emotional intelligence. Then instead of taking offense or becoming embarrassed when someone "rejects" you, you will keep a cool head and be able to shrug / laugh it off.

 

[Feathers]

A lot of people on this forum have avoidance/rejection phobia lol..

Maybe you can find a way to meet people eg at a course or in church, or through volunteering? Once you meet some people, maybe some of those could be potential 'love interest' too, or friends to go dancing with etc?

 

[panicsurvivor]

I know it is hard. But try to remember that there are very few people out there who will actually think less of you if you aproach them and they are not interested. It is flattering and makes you feel good. There are a few stuck up people out there that will be ****s about it but they are not were your time anyway. I know its still scary for some people. But that's what I would advise. Think in your head before you do it, this is going to make them feel good regardless of what happens. It will get easier.