Have I made the Right Decision??

[PrincessKitty]

Okay so certain things have been popping up recently which have to admit have been hurtful. Its like looking at bad memories which I really don't want to look back on.

Through the years out my life I've blocked people away my old friends that I've stopped talking to.
Like one time I went out with a guy and he cheated on me, all my friends thought it was okay to do that. So i cut them out from my life.

Or like it was okay to be racist towards other people. So I cut her out of my life.

And other friends who made excuses to not come round and see me. Like they said they would come round, but never turned up. So I cut them out of my life.

Was I right to do so??

Because just recently some of my bullies from school are recently popping up and saying sorry for hurting me. But to be honest, I don't believe them. I don't know why... I just don't.

I'm so confused right now. Was it the right decision to cut them out of my life?? :question:

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I think so....but, if they are genuinely sorry and have changed, it's fine to talk to them. I wouldn't waste your time with the guy who cheated on you, those types will almost always do it again!

Proceed with caution. But, if you're not sure, then don't waste your time on them.

 

[MikeyC]

I think you made the right decisions. Cheating boyfriends, racism, unreliability - good work on ridding yourself of all that!

 

[PrincessKitty]

thanks everyone.. its just recently (and i don't know why) everyone has been popping up saying how i am doing.. just with in months and its got me thinking. so thanks

 

[Remus]

I think you did right, I have high standards like that too and have dumped friends for not measuring up.

 

[slapstick]

Yeah I agree with all your decisions except 1 the bullies but let me get to tat later firstly, the guy that cheated on you ummm really do u need to ask sum1s opinion on that? If you did then lemme say HELL YES you were right to cut him and the friends that thought it was ok..And as for the douchebag that thinks it's OK to be racist well lets just say she doesnt have a fulfilling life good riddance..But about he bullies I was a both a bully and a victim at some point during my schooling years and neither is satisfying obviously but later on after I had finished school I so wanted to meet the poor guy I used to bully just to apologize and let him know I was having issues in my life at that point and that I was really sorry and so on...

The bullies in your life may just want to have some closure by saying sorry and hoping you'd forgive them. Like I hoped but if you genuinely believe theyre not sincere just ignore them and move on but if it continues to bother you don't let it buildup and vent deal with it immediately lifes to short for regret..

 

[jaim38]

I think it's ok to cut them off, if you don't think you click with them. After all, people usually befriend those who share the same values and interests. But if one of them contacts you, out of the blue, to make up, I think you could give him/her a chance and start over with the friendship. I don't believe in holding long, even permanent grudges against people.

 

[PrincessKitty]

I think it's ok to cut them off, if you don't think you click with them. After all, people usually befriend those who share the same values and interests. But if one of them contacts you, out of the blue, to make up, I think you could give him/her a chance and start over with the friendship. I don't believe in holding long, even permanent grudges against people.

yeahh some i will and some i just won't. Like one friend (the one was racist) she went on my facebook (behind my back) she knew my password, but i knew hers as well. and she pretended it was me. so i lost all my friends and i have to start from square one.

I don't know why everyone is suddenly popping up out of know where... I'm just doing my daily business. But I know one thing.. some people have truly hurt me in the past... I don't hold a grudge on them. I just don't want to talk them. I don't want nothing to do them. So that's the truth to be honest.

 

[PrincessKitty]

Yeah I agree with all your decisions except 1 the bullies but let me get to tat later firstly, the guy that cheated on you ummm really do u need to ask sum1s opinion on that? If you did then lemme say HELL YES you were right to cut him and the friends that thought it was ok..And as for the douchebag that thinks it's OK to be racist well lets just say she doesnt have a fulfilling life good riddance..But about he bullies I was a both a bully and a victim at some point during my schooling years and neither is satisfying obviously but later on after I had finished school I so wanted to meet the poor guy I used to bully just to apologize and let him know I was having issues in my life at that point and that I was really sorry and so on...

The bullies in your life may just want to have some closure by saying sorry and hoping you'd forgive them. Like I hoped but if you genuinely believe theyre not sincere just ignore them and move on but if it continues to bother you don't let it buildup and vent deal with it immediately lifes to short for regret..

But the bully she told me sorry so many times.. I just don't believe her anymore. When she says something to me, I don't believe her. I guess she told me that many lies to me... I'm fed up. I just don't believe anything that she says anymore.

And your right she could might be genuine... but I'm sorry I don't believe her

 

[jaim38]

yeahh some i will and some i just won't. Like one friend (the one was racist) she went on my facebook (behind my back) she knew my password, but i knew hers as well. and she pretended it was me. so i lost all my friends and i have to start from square one.

I don't know why everyone is suddenly popping up out of know where... I'm just doing my daily business. But I know one thing.. some people have truly hurt me in the past... I don't hold a grudge on them. I just don't want to talk them. I don't want nothing to do them. So that's the truth to be honest.

I see what you mean. There are some people that I prefer to avoid, even if I have no grudge against them.

About the girl who pretended to be you on FB - that's horrible! I would never share my passwords with anyone, even close friends. I hope you were able to clarify things though, even if it's just posting a status update that your account was hacked.

 

[PrincessKitty]

I see what you mean. There are some people that I prefer to avoid, even if I have no grudge against them.

About the girl who pretended to be you on FB - that's horrible! I would never share my passwords with anyone, even close friends. I hope you were able to clarify things though, even if it's just posting a status update that your account was hacked.

after three years later i did and everyone started to believe me.. but by then it was to late.
yeahh i just want to avoid her and thats it

 

[hoddesdon]

It depends on how serious it is. I think it is a symptom of SA to look for excuses to cut people out, but just because you do that unnecessarily does not mean that there are not circumstances under which you should do so.

 

[PrincessKitty]

It depends on how serious it is. I think it is a symptom of SA to look for excuses to cut people out, but just because you do that unnecessarily does not mean that there are not circumstances under which you should do so.

I didn't do it because of i made excuses. I mean I had a friend like that not so long ago and she had it pretty bad. Also I don't even have SA. I do have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and server Depression. But never had SA.

I guess I made those choices because they hurt me and I had friends who was different races and one friend hurt them (but i never did like racist people anyway)

But I never had SA.