Hate being asked to do things!

SilentAndShy

Well-known member
Since a young age and being the youngest of the family, I seemed to be the go-to-guy if anything needed doing. Items needed retrieving in the house or doing bits and pieces here and there.

I thought when my elder siblings were married that would stop.

It has to some degree but I still get asked to do things at the age of 26 and I fricking hate it! Especially tasks that are pain-stakingly slow and means I have to go out of my way to do them.

Sadly, I can't utter the elusive word - NO to a request.

I feel like screaming that at the top of my lungs when I get asked to do somethng I don't want to do but can't!

People I guess, take advantage once they know someone will not say no or doesn't have the balls too.

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mixedupgirl

Well-known member
You just have to pluck up the courage to say no but in a polite way. To be honest my brother in law never says no, so I know if I need a favor I can ask him first and probably won't have to ask any further. If he said no though I wouldn't mind at all I would just ask someone else.
 

mikebird

Banned
I was the youngest of two brothers who were married when I was born

I was left to myself to wander abut and find something to do. I often explored the forest by myself, getting lost and calling for a hitchhike to get home

I lived my life alone with parents who didn't care. I learned everything by myself with a zest beyond just school, teaching parents what they didn't know but weren't interested

I keep trying a new boss, but having the same relationship where they just don't want to listen, and just look the other way. That's everyone.

Now I feel I should be helping out my Dad, about to turn 90. He is 75 miles away and all by himself
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
Funny. It's the opposite here. I ask if I can help and they don't allow me.

You don't have to be rude to say no. A simple "sorry, I don't feel well" "I don't feel up for it right now" should do.
 

jaim38

Well-known member
My brother often ask me to do chores for him such as printing, scanning, finding stuff, proofreading his writing, making decisions for him, etc. Even if I told him I don't want to, he still forces me. He will keep pestering me until I do it. I have learned the hard way that saying no to him means risking peace and happiness. He's good at punishing people. Might as well do it and get it over with.
 
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