Because one knows that he will be hurt no matter what: she is toying with his emotions 'cause she knows he is weak. So he pushes her away to avoid that pain, and he wants to just walk away from it all. This what I believe him to be doing to you. Just how you stop watching a lame movie because you know it is going to end: same thing for him. When a love shy man is infatuated with a woman, after a while he becomes disillusioned, and realizes that what he was doing was fantasizing, and believes that the woman of his dreams actually did not like him.
God, i have such a hard time believeing this bcuz someone told him i thought he was really sweet and a great guy...and maybe we should get to know one another...so he knows i am interested.
And yes i see he has issues where i am concerned and i see how i affect him in a big way on a daily basis but with the way IIIIIIII act around him...all the things i've done to show him...seriously, how can he not know or believe it?
I just think he has programmed himself to be ''shut off'' to anything romantic or intimate. I know in the past when people have tried to set him up he has said NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO without even a discussion, seeing what she looked like or getting any info on the girl..its alays just no.
Also, he only befriends married women (which irritates me to know end) i have noticed this alot lately--they are safe i guess or women ALOT older than himself he is so at ease with and funny. God, how that gets to me!!!!!!!!!!!
I guess its part of the condition he has and theres nothing i can do about it..he just has such a severe reaction to me. It is what it is and its a shame he won't even try to help himself. I know he stays around me to get cmfortable and try to work through it i see that bcuz he has no reason to be around me ever.
Even before he knew i liked him (i saw how he was with me even back then) but i never told anyone how i felt HE WAS DOING THE SAME THING HE DOES NOW so i know its not just him knowing i like him he was always like this from the first moment we met he couldn't look at me in the eye, only looked down when we talked and was VERY antsy and jumpy and would NEVER talk to me unless i intitated it..thank God he can do that now when he's comfortable and having a good day. He always had that "stalker'' thing with me though...lol!!!!!!!!!!!
But i know he's harmless so i never minded. I also knew i started liking him so i tried to get to know him a bit and boy was that difficult..but he came around slowly actually, it was after a mutual friend told him that i was intereted that HE FINALLY STARTED TO TALK TO ME, SAY HELLO AND HE WOULD COME BY ALL THE TIME he never did any of that before.
I saw how hard it was but he would do it everyday..i guess he didn't the door to shut I WAS READY TO WALK AWAY i even ignored him after i heard he wouldn't talk to her (our friend) about me...he would NOT answer her questions about me, he just put his head downa nd wouldn't tell her why he treats me in a special and different way all he said was "i'm having my fun and not interested" she was floored bcuz she could tell how he was around me and howmid. She FOR SURE thought he'd be happy and relieved someone was intervening.
And yes, i see sometimes how sad and deseprate he looks (and withdrawn) and i want to go up and give him a great big hug and tell him how i feel and that its going to be ok if he just tries harder but he would seriously have a heart attack right in front of me!!!!!!!!!!!
He either can't look at me in the eyes or he is so jumpy he can't relax and i know that would send him right over the edge, but somedays i wonder...
Arrrrrrrgh could it help????? Its very sad all the way around.
sorry so long
