greetings - and question about sleepyness

Flanscho

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Hi there. New to this forums.

When I was in my early 20s, that social phobia thing hit me really hard, but over the years it got better and better, and now I'm in my early 30. Last week, I was at two birthday parties. Normally, I can't stand birthday parties. If they're like three of my closest friends or something: sure. But with like 20 or more people? Sheesh... In addition, especially on the larger party on saturday, a couple of my closer friends couldn't show up, which didn't help. Dozens of people around me, dozens of conversations creating a constantly loud noise level...

So I sat there, chatted a bit, watched a TV screen displaying random photos made of this circle of friends over the years, and left after about three hours, quite to the complains of the birthday girl, who is a close friend of mine since about a decade.

Now, what I noticed on those last two parties was, that after two hours or so I got really sleepy. All of a sudden. Even though I had enough sleep, and am used to stay up until at least midnight. And so I wondered if the amount of input from all sides makes me that sleepy? Or whether it's my brain just saying "this is too much, I'm shutting off"? And quickly, after leaving and biking home, I got awake quite quickly again. It's weird. It's probably coincidence. Or maybe it's because of my thyroid gland, which doesn't work very well, I don't know.

I don't know. It sounds silly somehow. But that's how I experienced it. Just thought maybe someone experienced the same. Oh well, thanks for reading.:)
 

Nathália

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Hello Flanscho. Nice to meet you :) Welcome to SPW.

I don't think your experience sounds silly. Being out and around people can be tiresome sometimes. Plus you said you were biking, it probably got your heart pumping and hitting the air outside could have woke you up?
 

MikeyC

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Last week, I was at two birthday parties. Normally, I can't stand birthday parties. If they're like three of my closest friends or something: sure. But with like 20 or more people? Sheesh... In addition, especially on the larger party on saturday, a couple of my closer friends couldn't show up, which didn't help. Dozens of people around me, dozens of conversations creating a constantly loud noise level...

So I sat there, chatted a bit, watched a TV screen displaying random photos made of this circle of friends over the years, and left after about three hours, quite to the complains of the birthday girl, who is a close friend of mine since about a decade.
I don't know about the sleepiness thing, but I can relate to this. Lots of conversation and I'm standing there alone and silent. It's an awful feeling.

Welcome to the forum.
 

Flanscho

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I don't know about the sleepiness thing, but I can relate to this. Lots of conversation and I'm standing there alone and silent. It's an awful feeling.

Welcome to the forum.

Thanks. Yeah, 4 or fewer people are fine. But more, and somehow I begin feel distant to all of them. The discussions seem to become trivial and irrelevant, I got nothing to contribute, and I get bored and stressed at the same time.

I don't think your experience sounds silly. Being out and around people can be tiresome sometimes. Plus you said you were biking, it probably got your heart pumping and hitting the air outside could have woke you up?

Yeah, I guess it's hard to find out, whether the exercise woke me up, or the relief of being out of that group.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
Thanks. Yeah, 4 or fewer people are fine. But more, and somehow I begin feel distant to all of them. The discussions seem to become trivial and irrelevant, I got nothing to contribute, and I get bored and stressed at the same time.
Yeah, totally. I remember I had lunch earlier this year and the 3 guys I was with were talking about diet and exercise. I had absolutely nothing to contribute and I sat there silent, getting more depressed by the minute. Eventually I had to go and I left, thankful to be out of that situation.

But anyway, good on you for getting to two parties in as many nights. :)
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
Welcome to the forum.
Socialising can sometimes drain all our energy, specially if we're not that interested in the first place.
 

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
Welcome to the forum.
Socialising can sometimes drain all our energy, specially if we're not that interested in the first place.

Exactly. When I'm in a social situation that involves a lot of talking - even if it's the others talking, and even if it's just me listening to one person who talks a lot, and even if it was interesting at the first place - I get very sleepy and bored after 20 mins, because it drains all my energy. if there is more than one conversation going on, I'll be lost, bored and tired veeeery fast. :rolleyes:

But if you're looking for an advice, when I know I'll have to be receptive and participative, I get myself a double espresso, it helps for 30-45 mins
 
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