For those of you without friends, how have you filled that void?
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AsTimeBurns
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I talk to co-workers, but apart from that, I do no socialising. Don't really talk that much when I'm at home either, tend to just get home and go to my computer room and shut the door.
razzle dazzle rose
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I rely on the internet; I have made many internet friends over the years. Some of them I even text on a regular basis. I really do appreciate these people and interacting with them makes me feel good... but I need real life friends too. People to go do things with. Now that I have moved, I have my boyfriend to hang out with, and it is really nice to have him, but he can't be everything. I will overwhelm him, and that can't be good. Because I also don't work or go to school, I have a lot of free time. It is pretty obvious what I have to do, but it is still so hard to go out and do it :/
MikeyC
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Actually, yes, I do remember the conversation! You go for Carlton, though. Pfft. Sydney Swans, mate!We had a conversation about it a while back:: When the season starts (which I got my carlton shirt on!) its on every friday night
But honestly video games strike such a cord with me,when I play video games I feel an overwhelming feeling of guilt. I never used to see games as the dumb and childish things that adults used to call them,we were kids and we were having fun.
But as I got older and everyone around me started to abandon them I began to see them like that. All of my past and former friends from both real life and online that were obsessed with games have long since moved on to other things in their life. I would ask "hey man are you coming online later" and they would reply with "man I dont have time for that sh*t anymore I got a girlfriend and a job now,sorry". The last time any of them logged on was over a year ago.
So now when I play I have in my head everybody else my age working jobs and moving forward with their lives while im just a stupid kid playing stupid games:
I don't think video games are childish. I remember reading the average age for a gamer is 30 or 35 or something like that. That's crazy! I don't think you need to feel guilty about anything: if you like it, continue doing it. Don't let outside factors influence you (even though they do, subconsciously or not).
You've already moved in? Excellent! And yes, you will make friends, either through your boyfriend or on your own.
You do know what you have to do, but you've made some pretty decent progress already by moving in with your boyfriend, so I think that deserves a kind of reward on its own, don't you think?
ThatOneShyKid
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I've filled the void by imagining myself if I did have friends. Keeps me happy for awhile.
Shant
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Workaholism and Education. I apologize if I've already said it before, but I have 16 hours a week in classes, 30-40 hours a week in work, the rest is either schoolwork, and what's left is me browsing places like this, or on a day off, playing video games and watching anime.
It's a very stressful time for me at the moment, but to be honest, I don't even have time to make friends, let alone even keep friendships going; so it doesn't bother me as much.
Although it could indirectly. I'm not pleased with where I'm at in life, and if that itself changed then I could make friends.
Oh. I do also have an imaginary friend (yes, at 19, judge me if you will, I don't even care anymore), who I've known for about 11 years now.
It's a very stressful time for me at the moment, but to be honest, I don't even have time to make friends, let alone even keep friendships going; so it doesn't bother me as much.
Although it could indirectly. I'm not pleased with where I'm at in life, and if that itself changed then I could make friends.
Oh. I do also have an imaginary friend (yes, at 19, judge me if you will, I don't even care anymore), who I've known for about 11 years now.
MikeyC
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Think of it this way: you're better your education now and you'll be able to make lots of friends later. You have your priorities set.
I don't really feel that there's a friend void that needs filling in my life.
Most things i do I prefer to do myself anyway.
If I want to walk somewhere with somebody i'll take my dog.::
I really don't care about friends.
Id like a girlfriend.....but just friends? eh
"Im a loner dottie,A rebel"
Most things i do I prefer to do myself anyway.
If I want to walk somewhere with somebody i'll take my dog.:
:I really don't care about friends.
Id like a girlfriend.....but just friends? eh
"Im a loner dottie,A rebel"
razzle dazzle rose
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You've already moved in? Excellent! And yes, you will make friends, either through your boyfriend or on your own.
You do know what you have to do, but you've made some pretty decent progress already by moving in with your boyfriend, so I think that deserves a kind of reward on its own, don't you think?
I did move out kinda fast after I decided to do it. I can be impulsive sometimes. If it wasn't for that, I would never get anything done.
My boyfriend is a loner too, so that doesn't really help things. He is quite comfortable that way. That is the difference between him and me.
Do I deserve a reward? People do seem quite impressed by this. I guess because it is unlike me. Or maybe this is like me and I am finally starting to do what I have to do. I don't know. I am still processing it all. But thanks, you got me thinking
I need to slow down; I just have no patience and want everything now.
MikeyC
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Nothing wrong with quick acting if that's what you want to do. You had a plan in your head and you went and did it, so that deserves admiration! It's not like buying a new toothbrush, either - you moved house, ages away, so that's a huge step.I did move out kinda fast after I decided to do it. I can be impulsive sometimes. If it wasn't for that, I would never get anything done.
My boyfriend is a loner too, so that doesn't really help things. He is quite comfortable that way. That is the difference between him and me.
Do I deserve a reward? People do seem quite impressed by this. I guess because it is unlike me. Or maybe this is like me and I am finally starting to do what I have to do. I don't know. I am still processing it all. But thanks, you got me thinking
I am impressed by this. Continue reaching for the stars, Rose. I'm sure you'll catch a few.
YellowBird
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internet,movies,tv series,books..
not that it makes me feel less lonely,i entertain myself to relief some of the pain,a few months ago it was a lot worse,i went to bed and i was afraid my heart would stop,i hadn't said a word to anyone and i thought i was all alone in this,but through this forum and sad groups on facebook the pain has subsided.
not that it makes me feel less lonely,i entertain myself to relief some of the pain,a few months ago it was a lot worse,i went to bed and i was afraid my heart would stop,i hadn't said a word to anyone and i thought i was all alone in this,but through this forum and sad groups on facebook the pain has subsided.
Games, internet and movies.
Section_31
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I grew up never having any real friends at all.
Strangely, it never bothered me, i was quite content to be left alone to do my own thing. If anything it moreso worried the adults around me, but i didnt care.
What i DID miss growing up was not having a gf, i dont know why but ive always been one of those guys who needs someone special, if i dont have that i feel so incomplete...now that im married ill never have to worry about that again.
As far as friends go though, everyone on here are the closest friends i have.
Strangely, it never bothered me, i was quite content to be left alone to do my own thing. If anything it moreso worried the adults around me, but i didnt care.
What i DID miss growing up was not having a gf, i dont know why but ive always been one of those guys who needs someone special, if i dont have that i feel so incomplete...now that im married ill never have to worry about that again.
As far as friends go though, everyone on here are the closest friends i have
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WeirdyMcGee
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I haven't really attempted to fill any void.
I suppose that's why I'm broken?
I suppose that's why I'm broken?
planemo
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I'm lucky since I have the best sports channel in the world probably. It gives me a lot of hours of distraction, although knowing that my existence is based on the performance and success of someone i don't even know, and who is basically skilled at kicking or throwing a ball around, hasn't been lost to me. So it's not much of an existence, but at least it keeps me from obsessively worrying 24/7.
I do watch other things on tv, but generally there's no real method or preferred shows. Of course the internet is also a distraction. Games used to be, but they're a bit too expensive these days. I'm trying to think of something else but I can't. So I guess I need to be looking at some type of screen/monitor for a reasonable amount of time, in order to stave off insanity.::
I do watch other things on tv, but generally there's no real method or preferred shows. Of course the internet is also a distraction. Games used to be, but they're a bit too expensive these days. I'm trying to think of something else but I can't. So I guess I need to be looking at some type of screen/monitor for a reasonable amount of time, in order to stave off insanity.
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