Feeling nervous around attractive guys

TheSanctuarian

TheSanctuarian

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Firstly, I am male, and consider myself pan-sexual. I started college a few days ago, and in almost all of my lessons I know no-one.

In two of my lessons there is a couple boy/young male [about two in each lesson] which cause me to feel awkward. I think that these guys are particularly attractive, they fit my 'type' criteria [I'm not shallow, I just have a type] symptoms include;

Raised heartbeat.
deep breaths.
increased nervousness.

My question is; is it attraction, or is it a feeling of inferiority? :confused:
 
Iam.myhair

Iam.myhair

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Well question this.. if you were to spot them by themselves and they came up to you and grinned and pinned you against a wall and kissed your neck, would you get pissed or turned on?
(I'm guessing turned on)
so relax, you just have a "lusty" crush. you just need to pray about it and calm down.
 
Waybuloo

Waybuloo

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Iam.myhair said:
Well question this.. if you were to spot them by themselves and they came up to you and grinned and pinned you against a wall and kissed your neck, would you get pissed or turned on?
(I'm guessing turned on)
so relax, you just have a "lusty" crush. you just need to pray about it and calm down.
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You should write soft porn lol.
 
Iam.myhair

Iam.myhair

Member
Soft core porn? Noooo.
I am a Christian man!
However, I hope I have helped you sir :)
Good luck with it. Besides, once you start having tests and stuff your mind will go in a million directions and you probably wont have so many thoughts about "stuff" in our mind.
So just breathe babe.
 
zoulaykha

zoulaykha

Active member
i'm a girl and i get nervous around attractive girls , not because i'm jealous of them or because i think they're better than me, it's like i like them or something, i started to think i'm bisexual, but nothing is for sure
 
vexatiousmind

vexatiousmind

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This really hot guy kept making eye contact with me during class today, It made me so nervous I figited all period, and could not pay attention at all.

So maybe a wee bit:p
 
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Merel

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Usually it takes more than physical attraction/outer appearance to get me attracted to a guy, and I feel the same rapid heartbeat and feeling sick when I feel attracted, but I don't think the way I feel is a product of inferiority. It's more a fear of embarrassing myself, coming off as shallow, or saying something foolish that would turn him off, though I acknowledge if I was talking to someone I was comfortable with that would never happen. When I'm right next to someone I'm attracted to, I'm much more self aware and think more than ever about how I should articulate my thoughts, and I become 10x quieter because I already am fighting this inner battle if I should start a conversation or not.

I don't think having a "type" is shallow by the way, I don't believe in that old adage "opposites attract" or that being with someone with a lifestyle and many perspectives diametrically opposite to yours would make a good match.
 
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da_illest101

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I think you simply want to give a good impression, but too scare of failling. There this girl in my program that her beauty literally assault me. She had an oral presentation and I couldn't stop starring at her because I was frozen. Not many girls can do that to me lol.

Just try your best to act as much as yourself as you can
 
Livemylife

Livemylife

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I'm confused. Why don't you just go to lecture to learn? Why are you concerned if there are guys there who are good looking to you? Why does it matter who in the class looks good, bad, or whatever? Not trying to pass judgement, I would just like to understand.
 
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