I'm feeling really lost. I'm 21, not doing well in college, no friends, lost the man I l like (only boyfriend I ever had) because I can't express what I feel and was always afraid to take a step forward in the relationship because I didn't have control of what was happening and I'm feeling that I'm such a bad person for hurting him. I've tried occupying my mind, did voluntary work so I could help people and maybe forget about myself for a while, but nothing is working. I have social anxiety and OCD since I was a kid and my family always treated this as something that soon will pass, but it never does and now it's impossible. I'm more depressed than I ever been, can't sleep because my brain just doesn't stop, wanna run away when there's people around. I just don't trust anyone enough to talk about it without beeing judged. I'm afraid this will never change, just don't see it getting better.
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MikeyC
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G'day from Australia.
How long ago was it when you and your boyfriend stopped seeing each other? If it was recent, that could be having a major impact on how you're feeling, since it just happened.
Do you trust anyone? Maybe you could benefit from talking to someone locally that you know and like, and discuss with them how you're feeling. You understand that things are not going according to the script, so I think the best solution right now is to chat to someone and get an opinion of what you might be able to do to get your life back on track.
Volunteer work is a great start, and I'm glad you're going that. Altruism is proven to make us feel better about ourselves, especially when we can see the results. I hope you continue to do that, and you may feel rewarded for doing something nice for others.
Welcome to the forum, and I hope you get the answers you seek here.
How long ago was it when you and your boyfriend stopped seeing each other? If it was recent, that could be having a major impact on how you're feeling, since it just happened.
Do you trust anyone? Maybe you could benefit from talking to someone locally that you know and like, and discuss with them how you're feeling. You understand that things are not going according to the script, so I think the best solution right now is to chat to someone and get an opinion of what you might be able to do to get your life back on track.
Volunteer work is a great start, and I'm glad you're going that. Altruism is proven to make us feel better about ourselves, especially when we can see the results. I hope you continue to do that, and you may feel rewarded for doing something nice for others.
Welcome to the forum, and I hope you get the answers you seek here.
Hi, i hope you will get better . I have hyperhidrosis (idk the cause, but it's likely that it's stress-induced), attention deficit and other mental problems...I found a very interesting book 'The Emotional Life of Your Brain' written by Richard J. Davidson and Sharon Begley. It explains the causes of many mental illnesses (like the combined effects of lack of balance between different brain parts and bad life experiences) and offers drug-free, meditation(what's that?) based help techniques. I'm not yet at this capitol(meditation and stuff), but this far the book helped me to better understand my problems, which is important. As far as the meditation and other drug-free methods are concerned, i'm a little skeptical about them. I think a lot of self-help books(this is not one, the writer is a research scientist and psychology/psychiatry professor) contain techniques like how to breathe and etc., which i think help only those who have mild problems.
I thought that i had social anxiety and i spent a lot of time looking for relief, i also took SSRIs, but now i know that my nervousness has another underlying cause. All i want to say with this is that it's VERY IMPORTANT to pinpoint the CAUSE, the root of the distress. It may take a lot of time. After that you have to choose a method and/or medication which works the best for you(this also may take a significant amount of time), SO BE PATIENT.
I think PATIENCE helped me and will help YOU to find a way to a healthy, happy life.
. I have hyperhidrosis (idk the cause, but it's likely that it's stress-induced), attention deficit and other mental problems...I found a very interesting book 'The Emotional Life of Your Brain' written by Richard J. Davidson and Sharon Begley. It explains the causes of many mental illnesses (like the combined effects of lack of balance between different brain parts and bad life experiences) and offers drug-free, meditation(what's that?) based help techniques. I'm not yet at this capitol(meditation and stuff), but this far the book helped me to better understand my problems, which is important. As far as the meditation and other drug-free methods are concerned, i'm a little skeptical about them. I think a lot of self-help books(this is not one, the writer is a research scientist and psychology/psychiatry professor) contain techniques like how to breathe and etc., which i think help only those who have mild problems. I thought that i had social anxiety and i spent a lot of time looking for relief, i also took SSRIs, but now i know that my nervousness has another underlying cause. All i want to say with this is that it's VERY IMPORTANT to pinpoint the CAUSE, the root of the distress. It may take a lot of time. After that you have to choose a method and/or medication which works the best for you(this also may take a significant amount of time), SO BE PATIENT.
I think PATIENCE helped me and will help YOU to find a way to a healthy, happy life.
Lavinialuna
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Welcome, hope you find some comfort here.
Lorn
Member
I think a trickle of OCD runs in my family, and occasionally we'll get someone who has it bad so I've seen the damage that it can do to someone. The last set of feelings you need to concern yourself with is that of an ex, as cruel as it sounds (relationships always seem to end with at least a little hurt or regret, anyway). To each their own troubles first and foremost.
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