Feeling invisable!

[redski]

Hi guys,

Does anybody feel invisible?

I was walking on uni campus one day and a girl was walking towards
my direction. I was fiddling with my cellphone walking her direction.
I saw her getting closer and closer and thought to myself
"Why on earth is she not moving to the left or right".
Hallway was big and we were the only two people in it.

As she gets closer and closer I think to myself
"I better move aside before an accident happens".
Also, I would think that I have manners and I am not just going
to walk straight into someone.

I move aside just in time before we walk straight into each other
and she does not budge an inch. Or shoulders brush, she could in
fact have made me lose my balance and I could have fallen over.

This seems like nothing probably to most but it is to me as
this happens to me often.

Why?
Am I sending out some signals or something?

 

[Tiercel]

Maybe she left that morning and forgot her white cane?

Or maybe you had her so smitten and flustered that she wasn't thinking clearly?

Honestly this happens to me, too. I wish I knew what to tell you. Perhaps next time turn your headlights off and on repeatedly?

 

[Riptor]

I know what you mean, some people seem to think I'm supposed to flatten myself against a wall when they pass, and if I hold my ground and butt shoulders I'm the asshole.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Most normal people will make room for someone even if they detect that the other person is shy or meek. But when you run into assholes who get a thrill out of throwing their weight around amongst people whom they see as exploitable, you get what you had with the girl in the hallway.

Somedays it happens to me too, and I'm built like a wrestler with a shaved head and a goatee. People pick up on insecurity really easily, no matter how subtle the cues. If I'm having a particularly "weak" day, it especially seems that way. Those kind of days often feel like one setback after another.

 

[BlueDays]

Yep, this has happened to me alot too.But over time I have come to realise there is just a lot of impolite/rude people in this world. These people just rudely expect you to do the moving out of the way. Don't read their rude behaviour as indicating that you've done something wrong.

 

[redski]

Hi all and thanks for the responses.

Well if I project something like "I am a victim, victimize me"
there is still something called manners isn't there?

Maybe I am too sensitive but some people are just plain rude.
In the back of my head I was thinking about it.
For the females here.

Do women do such things to get a guys attention?
If we would have bumped heads, well...

I was raised with manners and it is beyond me how people can
act that way. Sure, if it is with me but when I see such behavior
towards older people it just makes me bubble with anger inside.

 

[recluse]

People can be asshole's!

My pet hate is people who don't acknowledge when i'm driving and i make way for them....Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

[Harleyq]

Do women do such things to get a guys attention?

No. Not the ones I've come into contact with, anyways. If a woman wants to flirt by making bodily contact, normally she'll find some reason to touch you on the arm or she'll lean around you to get something and lightly brush against you. She's not going to barge right into you as if you aren't there. That's just rude.

 

[PrettyBoy]

Maybe she was thinking of bumping into you on purpose but acting like it was an accident and then apologizing. It would be a good way to get you to stop and engage in conversation. She could of fancied you mate...

 

[redski]

Harleyq:
Well, it was just a thought. I was wondering if women actually do such things.
What better way then just asking the ladies here.

PrettyBoy:
Thought crossed my mind. Shoulders were brushed. I am not sure
if I would have wanted to talk to her even if we walked into each other.
My mind would probably be saying "Damn bi**h don't you have manners"

 

[Phobologist]

This is interesting because Ive never felt extremely invisible. I have always felt people noticed me but just didn't care about me one way or the other.

 

[Interzone]

I know what you mean, it's happened to me before many times.

For me, people notice I'm their, but to them I'm just a worthless, quiet kid, not very good looking who they don't care to talk to. In psychology we were talking about how most people like have friends who are attractive rather than more unattractive ones and that got me thinking, will I ever have friends if people see me as unattractive? I mean, I know this is going to sound stupid and superficial, but I want good looking friends too, I don't want to make friends with the other unattractive people. I just want to know that I'm normal and just like everybody else. Or something like that.

Attractiveness/unattractiveness is subjective, just remember that.

 

[redski]

I have given it more thought. The girl that did that to me was strange. Making a pass or not I do not know.
But males who do it towards me (I am male) is it a primal thing? Personally I think it is so cavemanlike and childish.

What do you guys think?

 

[Interzone]

Agreed. Guys that feel the need to act like "macho" men in public are ****ing assholes.

 

[redski]

Agreed. Guys that feel the need to act like "macho" men in public are ****ing assholes.

Or just covering up something. Like, how insecure they really are.