RandomGuy3
New member
Hello this is my first post here!
First of all I am not a pedophile, have never harmed a child, no thoughts of harming a child, or anything like that. I have daughters and several nieces and nephews. I would in a second die for any one of them. But the problem I have is the fear that people around me are thinking I'm a pedophile. It's totally opposite. I think kids are great and I was even considering becoming a teacher until I realized this was a problem.
I have an idea of what might have caused this. Back when I was 17 I worked for a guy in my church. All his workers and him included always messed with eachother and made pretty mean jokes to eachother. They wernt mean for us we were just BSing all the time. One time I called him a pedophile and he flipped out on me saying things like "don't ever f***in say that about me again that can ruin a mans life! Blah blah blah!". Ok well no big deal but that did stick out in my mind to this day, 7 years later. Well about 2 or 3 years ago when this problem of mine started I was helping a friend with his computer. Dude had a ton of porn on there and let's just say some of the titles were kiddies this and that. He was a good friend and I knew what had happened, he just copied massive amounts of porn off of other people's hard drives. That was his explanation and I believed him cause that's how it was in our situation. The authorities were still called. Investigators were sent to my house, they took the hard drive and then went to his house and took EVERYTHING that could hold any kind of data from an apple tv down to music CDs. He was labeled a pedophile and slowly watched him suffer for something as simple as a mislabeled file. He was innocent but it was just like my boss at said some 4 years before that. He was labeled a pedophile and his life was ruined. The files were found to be falsely labeled.
I see a kid about to fall and my heart jumps a beat with fear. I see a parent being to harsh and my heart races with anger. So why is it when I am playing with any of the numerous kids in my family I can't help but think my siblings down to strangers are thinking I'm a pedophile and my heart skips a beat and races with anxiety and fear? What can I do? I like kids and I don't want to feel like I have to be scared of them, especially when its my own daughters who absolutely adore me and I them. Iv never talked about it with ANYONE out of fear that they would think what I fear. I kinda have the fear posting this here but at the same time I know this is a safe place.
Any help would be much appreciated. I wanted to teach kids cause I feel like the only way to make the world a better place is to be a positive role model for children. I can honestly say the good teachers that gave a damn were a huge positive part of my life. But they had confidence and wernt full of fear.
Thank you for taking the time to read if you did,
R. Garcia
PS and if this isn't the right place for this sorry for wasting your time.
First of all I am not a pedophile, have never harmed a child, no thoughts of harming a child, or anything like that. I have daughters and several nieces and nephews. I would in a second die for any one of them. But the problem I have is the fear that people around me are thinking I'm a pedophile. It's totally opposite. I think kids are great and I was even considering becoming a teacher until I realized this was a problem.
I have an idea of what might have caused this. Back when I was 17 I worked for a guy in my church. All his workers and him included always messed with eachother and made pretty mean jokes to eachother. They wernt mean for us we were just BSing all the time. One time I called him a pedophile and he flipped out on me saying things like "don't ever f***in say that about me again that can ruin a mans life! Blah blah blah!". Ok well no big deal but that did stick out in my mind to this day, 7 years later. Well about 2 or 3 years ago when this problem of mine started I was helping a friend with his computer. Dude had a ton of porn on there and let's just say some of the titles were kiddies this and that. He was a good friend and I knew what had happened, he just copied massive amounts of porn off of other people's hard drives. That was his explanation and I believed him cause that's how it was in our situation. The authorities were still called. Investigators were sent to my house, they took the hard drive and then went to his house and took EVERYTHING that could hold any kind of data from an apple tv down to music CDs. He was labeled a pedophile and slowly watched him suffer for something as simple as a mislabeled file. He was innocent but it was just like my boss at said some 4 years before that. He was labeled a pedophile and his life was ruined. The files were found to be falsely labeled.
I see a kid about to fall and my heart jumps a beat with fear. I see a parent being to harsh and my heart races with anger. So why is it when I am playing with any of the numerous kids in my family I can't help but think my siblings down to strangers are thinking I'm a pedophile and my heart skips a beat and races with anxiety and fear? What can I do? I like kids and I don't want to feel like I have to be scared of them, especially when its my own daughters who absolutely adore me and I them. Iv never talked about it with ANYONE out of fear that they would think what I fear. I kinda have the fear posting this here but at the same time I know this is a safe place.
Any help would be much appreciated. I wanted to teach kids cause I feel like the only way to make the world a better place is to be a positive role model for children. I can honestly say the good teachers that gave a damn were a huge positive part of my life. But they had confidence and wernt full of fear.
Thank you for taking the time to read if you did,
R. Garcia
PS and if this isn't the right place for this sorry for wasting your time.