I'm living in a bad situation. My family is very unstable, with both my mom and my brother having mental problems. My mom probably has dementia and paranoia. My brother seems to be the same, and I think he also has autism. I do have social phobia and bouts of depression every now and then. Talk about the Adams Family.
Anyway, my mom is trying to sue the neighbors. She initially contacted 2 lawyers but both of them rejected her case because it has "no merit." One of the lawyers questioned her sanity and recommended for her to get psychiatric evaluation. But so far, my mom didn't go to any doctor for psychiatric eval.
I tried to convince her to stop suing the neighbors and try to live peacefully; sure, the neighbors may have done some minor things in the past, but they tried to be nice with us. They also invited my parents over on several occasions to partake in meals.
However, my mom won't listen to me or my dad. She tends to listen to my brother, who also hated the neighbors. She also kept on listening to my uncle, who encouraged her to sue the neighbors if need be.
Well, the third time's a charm, because my mom finally got a lawyer to take her case. The lawyer issued an injunction against the neighbors!!! I was shocked when i read the contract that my mom showed me. I didn't want things to escalate between us and the neighbors. My mom already called the cops on them several times, and now this! My family must be the most hated villainous family in the neighborhood, and many times, I'm afraid to go out for fear of seeing the neighbors. I also heard insults thrown at us. This is not helping my social phobia.
So, I called a local hotline (sponsored by my local government) for advice, and I told the counselor everything. The counselor told me some bad news: first, I can't do anything to stop my mom from suing the neighbors because my mom is an adult and she has the money to sue them. No one can tell her to stop. Secondly, even though my mom may have mental disorders, the government can't do much about it. As long as she is not harming herself or anybody else physically, there's no one stopping her from suing anybody. Thirdly, no one can force my mom to get a psych evaluation. As much as I want her to go get evaluated for her mental health, I can't force her because she's an adult.
I am also sick and tired of living with my brother. He also has mental problems; I cannot look at him, because if I look at him he will pinch me or do things to me. I also can't talk out loud to him; if I want to communicate anything to him, I have to write it down on a piece of paper or type on the computer screen and he will respond. If I try to speak out loud to him, he gets angry and uses his hands to close my mouth shut. He is the urchin of the family. When I try to go against his wishes, he has threatened to use force against me. And my mom is no help because he sometimes threatens my mom and he's stronger than both of us. My dad goes to work so he's not home most of the time.
The neighbors think my mom is crazy, and I have to agree that my mom has mental disorders. My brother too. I don't know what to do. Today, my neighbor came over and talked to my mom about the issue. By now, the neighbors probably already received a letter from my mom's lawyer about the injunction. The neighbor talked to my mom but I couldn't hear specifically what they were saying. Later on when my dad asked what's going on, my mom was trying to be secretive about the whole thing but eventually, she told us about the conversation. She said the neighbor denied the claims that my mom made against him.
Any ideas, thoughts, advice?
Anyway, my mom is trying to sue the neighbors. She initially contacted 2 lawyers but both of them rejected her case because it has "no merit." One of the lawyers questioned her sanity and recommended for her to get psychiatric evaluation. But so far, my mom didn't go to any doctor for psychiatric eval.
I tried to convince her to stop suing the neighbors and try to live peacefully; sure, the neighbors may have done some minor things in the past, but they tried to be nice with us. They also invited my parents over on several occasions to partake in meals.
However, my mom won't listen to me or my dad. She tends to listen to my brother, who also hated the neighbors. She also kept on listening to my uncle, who encouraged her to sue the neighbors if need be.
Well, the third time's a charm, because my mom finally got a lawyer to take her case. The lawyer issued an injunction against the neighbors!!! I was shocked when i read the contract that my mom showed me. I didn't want things to escalate between us and the neighbors. My mom already called the cops on them several times, and now this! My family must be the most hated villainous family in the neighborhood, and many times, I'm afraid to go out for fear of seeing the neighbors. I also heard insults thrown at us. This is not helping my social phobia.
So, I called a local hotline (sponsored by my local government) for advice, and I told the counselor everything. The counselor told me some bad news: first, I can't do anything to stop my mom from suing the neighbors because my mom is an adult and she has the money to sue them. No one can tell her to stop. Secondly, even though my mom may have mental disorders, the government can't do much about it. As long as she is not harming herself or anybody else physically, there's no one stopping her from suing anybody. Thirdly, no one can force my mom to get a psych evaluation. As much as I want her to go get evaluated for her mental health, I can't force her because she's an adult.
I am also sick and tired of living with my brother. He also has mental problems; I cannot look at him, because if I look at him he will pinch me or do things to me. I also can't talk out loud to him; if I want to communicate anything to him, I have to write it down on a piece of paper or type on the computer screen and he will respond. If I try to speak out loud to him, he gets angry and uses his hands to close my mouth shut. He is the urchin of the family. When I try to go against his wishes, he has threatened to use force against me. And my mom is no help because he sometimes threatens my mom and he's stronger than both of us. My dad goes to work so he's not home most of the time.
The neighbors think my mom is crazy, and I have to agree that my mom has mental disorders. My brother too. I don't know what to do. Today, my neighbor came over and talked to my mom about the issue. By now, the neighbors probably already received a letter from my mom's lawyer about the injunction. The neighbor talked to my mom but I couldn't hear specifically what they were saying. Later on when my dad asked what's going on, my mom was trying to be secretive about the whole thing but eventually, she told us about the conversation. She said the neighbor denied the claims that my mom made against him.
Any ideas, thoughts, advice?
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