nightcrawler
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In a few weeks time there's gonna be a surprise 60th birthday party/barbecue for my dad. My mum asked me if I'd go (she knows I don't like big social gatherings, but is unaware of my SP) and I reluctantly said yes. However it's been playing on my mind ever since and the more I think about it the more I don't want to go.
The problem is (apart from the obvious social aspect) is that most of the people going are from my mum's side of the family, most of whom I don't like or avoid. The reason? A lot of them are very judgmental/critical which will immediately make me very defensive. Some will make a big thing (cue sarcastic jokes) of me actually turning up. And I'll also get a million questions about my private life, like why I haven't settled down with anyone yet/do you have a girlfriend? etc.
So now am wondering whether to "snub" it or not? I know that (in the short term at least) my parents will be disappointed if I do, but eventually I think they'll understand as they know I get very uncomfortable at these things. Or do I just go, and sink into my own personal hell for a few hours? The expression "stuck between a rock and a hard place" comes to mind![Roll eyes :rolleyes: :rolleyes:](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
The problem is (apart from the obvious social aspect) is that most of the people going are from my mum's side of the family, most of whom I don't like or avoid. The reason? A lot of them are very judgmental/critical which will immediately make me very defensive. Some will make a big thing (cue sarcastic jokes) of me actually turning up. And I'll also get a million questions about my private life, like why I haven't settled down with anyone yet/do you have a girlfriend? etc.
So now am wondering whether to "snub" it or not? I know that (in the short term at least) my parents will be disappointed if I do, but eventually I think they'll understand as they know I get very uncomfortable at these things. Or do I just go, and sink into my own personal hell for a few hours? The expression "stuck between a rock and a hard place" comes to mind