Quietguy11
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Hey guys, well in my Journal thread I mentioned a little bit about the brain being a muscle, and that it can be shaped and developed in a way that can enhance social skills. This is something that just came to me the other night when I was out playing D&D with a group of people. My mind was blank, as it normally is, and I couldn't think of anything to say, which was making me feel like the pressure to talk was on me. This all changed when I took that moment (while feeling blank) and searched deep for a thought to use in conversation. It didn't matter how much I said, I just wanted to break free from that mute-like feeling and get my voice out there so I exercised a certain part of my brain (not sure what part) to develop a thought and then pushed through the anxiety, and spoke it, and I actually got positive reactions from people when I spoke!
What we need to realize is that the heaviness felt in the mind (normally physically felt around the forehead area) is a deception. It may appear like there are no thoughts at all to speak at the time, but if you challenge your mind, and exercise your brain like any other muscle, you will be able to dig deep enough to find a thought that you can speak.
So after speaking for awhile, I then started feeling blank again, but this time I viewed it as a normal thing instead of an abnormal thing. I viewed it as I was simply finished speaking, and had nothing more I wanted to share with anyone. Where before I would be questioning myself as to why I burnt out so quickly.
Anyway the next time you are in a social situation and your mind is blank, try challenging yourself to say something regardless to how much you feel you may have to force it out. Search for a thought, because there are more thoughts going on in there than you think, and say it confidently without care as to how you sounded or how you were perceived.
What we need to realize is that the heaviness felt in the mind (normally physically felt around the forehead area) is a deception. It may appear like there are no thoughts at all to speak at the time, but if you challenge your mind, and exercise your brain like any other muscle, you will be able to dig deep enough to find a thought that you can speak.
So after speaking for awhile, I then started feeling blank again, but this time I viewed it as a normal thing instead of an abnormal thing. I viewed it as I was simply finished speaking, and had nothing more I wanted to share with anyone. Where before I would be questioning myself as to why I burnt out so quickly.
Anyway the next time you are in a social situation and your mind is blank, try challenging yourself to say something regardless to how much you feel you may have to force it out. Search for a thought, because there are more thoughts going on in there than you think, and say it confidently without care as to how you sounded or how you were perceived.