ever have the feeling like you can't properly express yourself with some people?

[gustavofring]

With some people I have the feeling they don't really know me at all. But because the relationship has already been spoiled/tainted in a way, it remains on a level of awkwardness/shallowness.

They don't know I can be quite a humorous, funny guy fo example when in the right company. But because they already have this view of me, I subconciously can't shake that off and keep acting timid when I'm near them. I have this very strongly with my roommates.

 

[dyingtolive]

yeah... like ppl label you and then they treat u some way permanently.. do u feel like u want to join in their conversations but are afraid they might not listen?

 

[Graeme1988]

Yeah, I can very much relate to that, gustavofring.

 

[gustavofring]

Yeah, I've had it happen during parties or something where I said something and it was just bluntly ignored or got a ridiculously bad reaction. Which is why I stopped trying/caring with some people. Foolish probably on my behalf. Exposure can take away the edges of bad relationships, once you get to know each other better, all the silly prejudices/assumptions can die.

But alas.

I think the people I live with are just really not my type of people. Because we have a system of voting when a new room is available, the predominant culture in this house is not the one I wanted. I would have picked different people.