Even the brightest lights can go dark
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Nicholas
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What the f dude, aren't you the one who posted the material, audiobooks, stuff, you know, self help material and always seemed to think positive... yeah, it's you, I just checked on your profile, lol.
Come on.
I recently discovered a new method, I am trying it out, whenever I remember it, and it's "Lower your expectations by not expecting much from life, but at the same time try to do the best you can".
That means a lot of things. Think about it. Do you expect someone you've never seen before to ring your doorbell now and tell you "hey, wanna come along?" or every girl that crosses your mind to magically appear in front of you and say "I love you! Let's have fun together!"... Do you expect such things? Because I often do dream of such unlikely things, and now I know they are just dreams, too unlikely. Why should anyone come and see me if I don't go out in the first place? Why should anyone fall in love with me if they don't even know me? Why do I even expect such things, you know. Think about your expectations, and then be realistic and notice how stupid some of them can be. Then don't expect much, and do what you think is best anyway.
Just do it and don't expect much in return. You'll often get something in return but it won't be what you were dreaming about. Accept it anyway, because it'll be good and it'll be better than nothing. No one can have everything. Lower the expectations.
I hope this will help you (and myself too). It's hard, I know, but there aren't many other solutions I'm afraid...
Come on.
I recently discovered a new method, I am trying it out, whenever I remember it, and it's "Lower your expectations by not expecting much from life, but at the same time try to do the best you can".
That means a lot of things. Think about it. Do you expect someone you've never seen before to ring your doorbell now and tell you "hey, wanna come along?" or every girl that crosses your mind to magically appear in front of you and say "I love you! Let's have fun together!"... Do you expect such things? Because I often do dream of such unlikely things, and now I know they are just dreams, too unlikely. Why should anyone come and see me if I don't go out in the first place? Why should anyone fall in love with me if they don't even know me? Why do I even expect such things, you know. Think about your expectations, and then be realistic and notice how stupid some of them can be. Then don't expect much, and do what you think is best anyway.
Just do it and don't expect much in return. You'll often get something in return but it won't be what you were dreaming about. Accept it anyway, because it'll be good and it'll be better than nothing. No one can have everything. Lower the expectations.
I hope this will help you (and myself too). It's hard, I know, but there aren't many other solutions I'm afraid...
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Sinar_Matahari
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All I can say is to hang in there, Redzer. It's easier said than done. I agree that you're usually more upbeat and positive in your posts. Try as hard as you can to keep that up. It sucks ass to be lonely, but you still have yourself and you have to make that good enough for you when you don't have anyone else. I hope you'll be feeling better soon.
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userremoved
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We all get these moods from time to time. Just got to push your way through it so it doesn't destroy you. Going for a long walk always helps me.
Redzer
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Oh no, i'm really sorry if you've lost a parent ::
If you want to talk then just let it all out.. I'm here to listen.
ah she died when i was ten then my father a few weeks later, that was 13 years ago but now it just gettin worse i miss her more and more i never dealt with it proper when it happened as i was so young. Some much shit has happened to me over the years i try to be upbeat but sometimes i just cant take it and it gets to me and breaks me down. they way things are now are are bad i'm living with my grandmother and she is gettin on now and when she goes i dont know what i will do, well i have an idea i'll prob just overdose because i cant see no light at the end of this tunnel, everyone thinks i'm ok but they just dont know really :
:LycraPantiies92
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Awh god ]: That's rli sad ]:
*fake hug* *a million fake hugs*
xxx
*fake hug* *a million fake hugs*
xxx
That's a really harsh hand you've been dealt Redzer. You've got to soldier through this low period though man, because from what I know of you on this forum, you honestly seem like a top guy with a lot to offer.Have you tried talking to someone in person about your loss(es)? Sometimes it REALLY helps to let it all out and have a good cry. I find it literally releases the pressure that builds up inside.
Redzer
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i have never talked to anyone about it or anything that causes me this depression i cant for some reason, i would'nt like to sit in front of a therapist and talk about it i just could not do that i'm afraid to show weakness and my emotions infront of others but i do cry sometimes and only the last while i have its the first time in about 12 years, but it does help at times yes
Hey dude id buy u pint if i lived closer to dublin I know how hard is it to try and be positive towards others,and often find myself in the same boat it seems youre giving advises and trying to see good things,but when it comes to yourself doesnt matter hard you try and the black cloud is over you.One day youll be happy just wait a lil bit
I know how hard is it to try and be positive towards others,and often find myself in the same boat it seems youre giving advises and trying to see good things,but when it comes to yourself doesnt matter hard you try and the black cloud is over you.One day youll be happy just wait a lil bit
Redzer
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Hey dude id buy u pint if i lived closer to dublin
Thats how it is yeah totally for me, seems i do good for people but i dont get nothing in return no thanks but thats not why i do things for rewards i do it to help people and be a good person as i'm sure you do to but i'm not perfect myself and if people around me took more notice then they'd see. this is'nt a cry for attention it just something i had to vent and get off my chest i tell ya what my life took a bad turn when i was 11 and i ended up in care for what i got blamed and pressured into sayin i did, thats a huge factor that contributes to the way i am. But thats a different story
we are all entitled to cry.
your thread has made me cry, crying is not a bad thing mate.
i never even thought you had been through all this.
please mate dont try od
everyone thats read your thread is thinking about you.
if your still feeling this way, put that film on mate (you know the one!)
for those of you that dont know the film! tuff! its a secret!!
try to keep your spirits up mate, we are all here for you.
your thread has made me cry, crying is not a bad thing mate.
i never even thought you had been through all this.
please mate dont try od
everyone thats read your thread is thinking about you.
if your still feeling this way, put that film on mate (you know the one!)
for those of you that dont know the film! tuff! its a secret!!
try to keep your spirits up mate, we are all here for you.
Redzer
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Yeah i been through some bad stuff
but i think your right i should watch that movie take my mind off my problems for awhile, nice on mate and everyone who gave me advice, much appericated.no problem mate, watch trainspotting aswell, i hate needles, but its still a great film.
by the way, thanks so much for those audio book downloads (i bet ive said that before!)
by the way, thanks so much for those audio book downloads (i bet ive said that before!)
yer top notch mate
by the way, thanks so much for those audio book downloads (i bet ive said that before!)
by the way, thanks so much for those audio book downloads (i bet ive said that before!)
yer top notch mate
Scrabbl
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I give up. i cant live in this world on my own, i have nobody and no one knows just how depressed i am. I miss my mum so fukin much :
Before you say that... before you give up, will you at least promise to try everything you can to help yourself? Go talk to someone. try therapy - maybe there's some sort of therapy you haven't tried but perhaps it would work for you - you never know.. have to doc prescirbe you some anti depressants. And after all that if you're still sure about your initial decision, then I will give u 100% support