I thought I'd start a thread about this to see what you guys think, because I don't know if I'm just being crazy or what.
Two of my older sisters want to take me on a vacation, expenses paid, to celebrate my upcoming milestone birthday (it's still a ways away, but they're planning ahead). They want to do some sort of ritzy resort vacation, and have been talking about Costa Rica.
I don't want to go.
I mean, yeah I would love to see Costa Rica and all, but I just don't want to go.
They don't understand my anxieties, especially when it comes to traveling. They were flabbergasted that I got anxiety during a two-hour car ride to a nearby city.
I don't travel much. I like to be at home. When I do travel I like to be with someone who understands and sympathizes with my problems, like my fiance.
I don't like being away from home for more than a few days at a time. I get extremely homesick and stressed out.
Traveling with those two would be stressful even for a completely normal person. Every time we travel together (which has been a few years) I vow that I will never travel with them again.
I hate flying, with a passion.
This vacation would take up one of my only two weeks of vacation that I get from my job each year. The thought of spending it away from home does not even appeal to me.
I can't stand spending more than 48 hours straight in anyone's company without a break. I NEED my complete alone time, in my own environment.
Am I being completely stupid in passing up a chance to get a free exotic vacation? Should I just suck it up and go, despite the anxiety, just for the chance to do something cool?
They have been talking about this trip for a long time, so it's not something that I haven't been thinking about and considering for a while. I've been trying to avoid talking to them about any trips, but it is coming down to the point where they want to start making plans.
Last night I felt okay with going, though not thrilled. But today my sister and I had a tiff over something unrelated at lunch and it was everything I could do to keep back the tears until it was time to go. That's making me think that it's not the best idea to go traveling with them, especially to some far off place where I am going to feel very, very trapped.
I'm sure if I went it would be incredible and I would have fun, but I would also have a lot of anxiety. Even when I do feel okay with going, I'm not actually excited about going. I feel like they will be insulted if I tell them I don't want to go. I'm not worried about regretting the chance to go, because I'm almost 30 and I've never left the country and I feel perfectly okay with that. I feel like there are plenty of fun, relaxing vacations to be had much closer to home. Of course, when I mentioned going to Michigan they laughed at me. They have much grander schemes in mind.
I just feel like I'm not like them in this respect. My sister travels all around the globe, two or three times a year, and she loves it. But I love living a simple lifestyle close to home. I would much rather have something nice for my house than an expensive trip overseas.
I don't know. Part of me just thinks I'm copping out because of the anxiety. I can't tell if I'm just being avoidant, or if I have justifiable excuses for not wanting to go.
(Is this a first world problem, or what?)
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Two of my older sisters want to take me on a vacation, expenses paid, to celebrate my upcoming milestone birthday (it's still a ways away, but they're planning ahead). They want to do some sort of ritzy resort vacation, and have been talking about Costa Rica.
I don't want to go.
I mean, yeah I would love to see Costa Rica and all, but I just don't want to go.
They don't understand my anxieties, especially when it comes to traveling. They were flabbergasted that I got anxiety during a two-hour car ride to a nearby city.
I don't travel much. I like to be at home. When I do travel I like to be with someone who understands and sympathizes with my problems, like my fiance.
I don't like being away from home for more than a few days at a time. I get extremely homesick and stressed out.
Traveling with those two would be stressful even for a completely normal person. Every time we travel together (which has been a few years) I vow that I will never travel with them again.
I hate flying, with a passion.
This vacation would take up one of my only two weeks of vacation that I get from my job each year. The thought of spending it away from home does not even appeal to me.
I can't stand spending more than 48 hours straight in anyone's company without a break. I NEED my complete alone time, in my own environment.
Am I being completely stupid in passing up a chance to get a free exotic vacation? Should I just suck it up and go, despite the anxiety, just for the chance to do something cool?
They have been talking about this trip for a long time, so it's not something that I haven't been thinking about and considering for a while. I've been trying to avoid talking to them about any trips, but it is coming down to the point where they want to start making plans.
Last night I felt okay with going, though not thrilled. But today my sister and I had a tiff over something unrelated at lunch and it was everything I could do to keep back the tears until it was time to go. That's making me think that it's not the best idea to go traveling with them, especially to some far off place where I am going to feel very, very trapped.
I'm sure if I went it would be incredible and I would have fun, but I would also have a lot of anxiety. Even when I do feel okay with going, I'm not actually excited about going. I feel like they will be insulted if I tell them I don't want to go. I'm not worried about regretting the chance to go, because I'm almost 30 and I've never left the country and I feel perfectly okay with that. I feel like there are plenty of fun, relaxing vacations to be had much closer to home. Of course, when I mentioned going to Michigan they laughed at me. They have much grander schemes in mind.
I just feel like I'm not like them in this respect. My sister travels all around the globe, two or three times a year, and she loves it. But I love living a simple lifestyle close to home. I would much rather have something nice for my house than an expensive trip overseas.
I don't know. Part of me just thinks I'm copping out because of the anxiety. I can't tell if I'm just being avoidant, or if I have justifiable excuses for not wanting to go.
(Is this a first world problem, or what?)
Any thoughts would be appreciated.