nightcrawler
Well-known member
It's probably a silly question in a social phobia forum, but does SP/SAD single-handedly stop you from ever getting married and/or having kids? Has anyone here actually managed to do either of these things whilst battling with SP?
Whether I want to get married or not, just the thought of being the focal point of attention for an entire day would be a nightmare. I know this is negative thinking, but I just don't think I could go through with it. Weddings are bad enough when they are someone elses!. Then there's kids. They are highly unpredictable and attract a lot of attention in public places. Someone like myself who has SP likes to be in control whenever in a public place, especially like on buses, trains etc. Having a kid with me who is forever crying or asking for this & that whilst sitting on a packed train is just something I couldn't do. Obviously there are good things about having kids with someone you love (still waiting for the latter let alone the former!) but for me babys/kids attract far too much attention for someone who doesn't want it ::
Whether I want to get married or not, just the thought of being the focal point of attention for an entire day would be a nightmare. I know this is negative thinking, but I just don't think I could go through with it. Weddings are bad enough when they are someone elses!. Then there's kids. They are highly unpredictable and attract a lot of attention in public places. Someone like myself who has SP likes to be in control whenever in a public place, especially like on buses, trains etc. Having a kid with me who is forever crying or asking for this & that whilst sitting on a packed train is just something I couldn't do. Obviously there are good things about having kids with someone you love (still waiting for the latter let alone the former!) but for me babys/kids attract far too much attention for someone who doesn't want it ::