Does this happen to anyone else?

[Necrucifer]

I was talking to my best friends sister and this happened a few days ago before I joined this site...I was chatting with her just trying to make friends and she calls me her best friend or one of her bested friends anyway but I never once brought up a problem to her that I had...she tells me "go find a girlfriend it will cheer you up" I tell her I just got out of a 2 year relationship and she knew that but I was not going to go jump wagons and let alone my bad S.A problem.

Then she yells at me...saying you need to stop putting your problems on other people...? and also states her brother (My best friend) has S.A but makes tons of friends just fine...I told her some people have it worse than him and I can barely make 1 seems I scare everyone off...she just got angry? I do not understand why people do this...I only wanted to chit chat and not bring up a single problem because this always happens.

I was chatting with her for more than a week or so I argued with her before long ago but never brought up any personal problems I had with her until she stated I should go get another GF which is not what I wanted after just being dumped this month ya know? this is why I never talk to anyone especially about my problems...I tend to somehow piss someone off...I try not to I posted everything I said right here and I still dont spot what I did wrong...

I figured it was an oppurtunity to talk to her about it maybe she could give me some tips but I just get blown up at after explaining I cant go and talk to people very well unless its over texts or online...less stressful when its not face to face...

 

[Silatuyok]

She sounds like an awfully superficial friend. Then again, I think a lot of people tend to get reeeeaaaally uncomfortable around people who are feeling sad or depressed about something. Since they don't know what to do or say, they just get irate to mask their own awkwardness. This has happened to me a few times when I tried to open up to somebody.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Most people don't understand because their thought processes are totally different.
So, yeah- it happens.

Also... about the relationship thing; I hear from 'friends' and family members constantly that I need to get a boyfriend.
I say I'm not interested-- my last relationship was 8 years and I want to focus on myself; BUT some people don't wait after a relationship.
They don't see the point in waiting.
They'll use their next relationship to gather more baggage and just ignore their problems and be in a happy cloud of ignorance~ but that's their decision.
They make theirs-- you make yours.
Everyone disagrees.

 

[Necrucifer]

Yea...her brother tells me she is kind of mean all the time except when shes around his friends but I just figured he was saying that because brothers and sisters ya know? she may have felt uncomfortable never thought of that though and I know he is so I usually never talk to him about stuff like that.

8 years...thats a long time. Yea...some people I used to be friends with a few years back jumped bf/gf's and I always thought it was dumb...I mean if it makes them happy fine but someones always gonna get hurt and it makes your last relationship seem pointless if you ask me or meaningless as in makes it seem like you've never cared to begin with but that is just my thoughts on it...

Everyones gonna have disagreements though...and you should focus on yourself and hope you do and I support that but I would probably do the same if I was in a relationship that long. I have people telling me to go fool around and I am not like that at all it helps some people, it could help me but I just dont like the idea and giving myself up to this or that person.

 

[evernight]

That right there is something I'm glad I have SA/Avpd. If I hadn't, I probably would have developed that typical media guy slut mentality, hanging around highschool friends. I'm glad I'm not like that.

 

[Necrucifer]

Yea one of the reasons why I am glad I stay quiet mostly haha to avoid stuff like that.