Whoooah...
Now you've got me going!
I only thought of this years ago, reading a list of interview tips - everyone offers such lists, and none are the same.
Maintaining eye contact, in my context, it just means to show you're interested. I never have a problem. Looking away, long-term, must mean you're bored, scared, apprehensive, lazy, or depressed. People who stare into my eyes might feel assertive; I've never encountered this.
A recent new psychologist came to visit a few weeks ago, and when the 30 mins came to an end, he congratulated me for maintaining eye contact. He never told me. I just have enough written tips to stick to a basic protocol.
I think looking into the eyes means you're listening.
I'm told my worst attribute is not listening, or answering the questions I'm asked. I'm told I really have to 'stick to the point' and not wander on my own tangent.
But that's because I have my own creative side.
I'm unsettled by simple questions such as 'how are you?' or 'what's you favourite colour?'
I prefer deeper questions about the scale or the universe, other galaxies, and the orbits of each planet. I'd give a good answer to 'how do you build the differential of any gearbox', or 'decide how to tack or gybe in a yacht, when you're in the centre of a storm?'
I guess it's important to impress by following someone's thread in a conversation. When someone looks away to gather their own thoughts, I wouldn't mind; I'd respect it. I'd rather give more time, rather than curtailing an interview, as people do with me... passing the test of doing what the boss wants. They lose, if I can't show my colours of imagination...
Who's listening or ignoring?
I can't use the 'phone. The concept is dead.
Tulicks, you've done it for me! All these ideas from you all. I may be more upfront than audio. A mammal's primary sense is vision. Epiglottis and ears are our second sense. The next time I get an anonymous call from a recruiter, telemarketer, selling double-glazing, or life insurance, or pretending to write off my debt, as I almost always reply with 'piss off', now I can add 'I can't see you', as they hide behind their secret 'phone.
I'd prefer you waving your flappy hands at me, as TV presenters do.I ain't deaf
I ain't blind. I like reading and writing. I ain't stupid.