Do you think there is a social hirearchy on this forum?
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Dave_McFadden
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Bianca said:
You're probably right, but that's because there's a hierarchy everywhere you go. Human beings seem unable to do anything without organizing themselves into layers.
I'm sure there probably are, but what does it matter? I love all of you :wink:! Some people just tend to me a little more noticable in certain situations. Doesn't mean they are any better though.
Infected_Malignity
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maybe i'm blind, but i don't see any of it. you guys are just paranoid... and i mean that in the best way possible 
strawberrybrunette
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That's funny. I've never really thought of it like that! I don't really think there is, that's why i like this forum - it's just a bunch of people who suffer in similiar ways, supporting each other, or making each other laugh etc. That's why i like this forum - i feel that the people are genuine, nice people.
ripewithdecay
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Hmm... well I think it depends on your outlook. I give everyone on here an equal amount of respect and attention. I mean, I don't rush into a thread to see what so and so said. I take the time to read everyone's opinions. Occasionally i'll take a glance at their post count, but really it means nothing.
Len
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I don't think you should blame people for being able to express themselves or post interesting topics. Everyone here are experiencing similar problems and its like a community where we can share our thoughts.
Remember too there are a lot of people who just read posts and don't reply to anything. This means that it is up to certain individuals to post something interesting or something we can relate to.
There are also people who are younger here who talk about things that maybe some of us cannot relate to. I am older so tend not to be interested in posts about crushes or where there is a misunderstanding as whether the topic is about anxiety or just hormones or part of adolescence. No offence.
So what would you do to make it all a bit more 'equal'? Remove the popular posts? Make the popular posts the ones about high school crushes? Tell the people who write good posts to stop it. Ahhh....I just don't understand the fuss.
P.S I don't mean to offend anyone, just trying to make a point.
Remember too there are a lot of people who just read posts and don't reply to anything. This means that it is up to certain individuals to post something interesting or something we can relate to.
There are also people who are younger here who talk about things that maybe some of us cannot relate to. I am older so tend not to be interested in posts about crushes or where there is a misunderstanding as whether the topic is about anxiety or just hormones or part of adolescence. No offence.
So what would you do to make it all a bit more 'equal'? Remove the popular posts? Make the popular posts the ones about high school crushes? Tell the people who write good posts to stop it. Ahhh....I just don't understand the fuss.
P.S I don't mean to offend anyone, just trying to make a point.
strawberrybrunette
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Len said:
Maybe people are just worried about being "unpopular" or being judged. But isn't that completely besides the point of this forum? It's a support group of a sorts, isn't it? That's why i find this topic quite weird! No body here has the right to judge any body else - we all have social anxiety of some degree.
I mean, i have been on forums before which were like, virtually owned by about five people! It may as well have been a social club for these people! They all knew each other from work or school or something, and most of the posts were by them etc. I felt almost intimidated by that atmosphere - but i think, due to the nature of this forum, that sort of thing would be totally contradictory to the point of it. In fact, this is probably the "friendliest" forum i've ever been on - certainly the most welcoming (which is why i keep posting here - you won't be able to get rid of me now! :twisted: )
LostViking
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Social hierarchy sounds horribly nasty, but I get your drift. I'm guessing this could be at least partially because you have some people being more active than others, and remember there's the chat channel as well. So while you may not notice someone being horribly active here, they could be horribly active on the chat.
Richey
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You have to judge every thread and reply or opinion on its own individual merits, people will use an array of varied emotions and ways to express and you can't mistake that for a hierarchy which i don't think exists here, if it did you'd see people ganging up on others and using inside jokes, it does exist on some forums though yes! (this is more of a place to vent) ..
Sometimes people are seen as more optimistic and upbeat then you may expect, light-hearted but don't think to yourself those people arn't feeling extreme ups and downs in reality away from the computer screen ..
To be positive is not to be ignorant of suffering - it's knowing both the negative the positive, as deeply as you can and choosing, well, Yes (in the metaphysical sense of the word) yet remaining fully aware of both and everything in between. It is, by definition, a win-win choice (and the opposite vice versa). It's not like you don't feel the other side in life or walk around with some inane grin on your face like some deluded idiot, but when it comes to declaring what you believe as a person, when you're choosing who you are because it's built into you to do so, I choose the side of "Yes Please - and a Slice of Pie". If you think you've never even made that decision, think again.
Even suffering can be seen as something that is beautiful, from a certain perspective. I personally find such a concept intriguing and ultimately worth trying to understand.
Sometimes people are seen as more optimistic and upbeat then you may expect, light-hearted but don't think to yourself those people arn't feeling extreme ups and downs in reality away from the computer screen ..
To be positive is not to be ignorant of suffering - it's knowing both the negative the positive, as deeply as you can and choosing, well, Yes (in the metaphysical sense of the word) yet remaining fully aware of both and everything in between. It is, by definition, a win-win choice (and the opposite vice versa). It's not like you don't feel the other side in life or walk around with some inane grin on your face like some deluded idiot, but when it comes to declaring what you believe as a person, when you're choosing who you are because it's built into you to do so, I choose the side of "Yes Please - and a Slice of Pie". If you think you've never even made that decision, think again.
Even suffering can be seen as something that is beautiful, from a certain perspective. I personally find such a concept intriguing and ultimately worth trying to understand.
cobalt_bluester
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Hi. I have that feeling too, but then again I always feel that people in general are more popular and well-liked by me, even though I feel I am a really nice guy.