Do you replay conversations?

[Sprunk]

Ok this might sound weird though do any of you replay conversations you have had with people in your head?At work if i talk to someone, as soon as they have left i start to kind of replay the conversation in my head and be like,I shouldn't have said this and what did they mean by that.And sometimes i can be like that all day,over one conversation.My psychologist says i have to stop doing it cause it's not healthy, though a lot of the time i just can't help it.Anyone else feel the same?

 

[Bittersweet]

Ok this might sound weird though do any of you replay conversations you have had with people in your head?At work if i talk to someone, as soon as they have left i start to kind of replay the conversation in my head and be like,I shouldn't have said this and what did they mean by that.And sometimes i can be like that all day,over one conversation.My psychologist says i have to stop doing it cause it's not healthy, though a lot of the time i just can't help it.Anyone else feel the same?

Most of my time is spent doing this.

 

[Iseesky]

Yup. Over and over and over. I'm getting better at accepting the stupid things I say. I'm typically the only one who really pays attention to what I say anyway. Though, I do tend to remember conversations I had with certain people many months or many years ago and think to myself what an idiot I am. ::

 

[Sprunk]

Most of my time is spent doing this.

Do you think you do it because your worried about offending someone?Cause i think that is the main reason i do it?Though once i get into that frame of mind i just can't let it go::

 

[Bittersweet]

Do you think you do it because your worried about offending someone?

Yes, I am worried about offending someone, annoying someone, or having them think less of me as a person.

 

[Mickery]

Very much so! It's a staple of the disorder, I thought.

 

[Sprunk]

Yup. Over and over and over. I'm getting better at accepting the stupid things I say. I'm typically the only one who really pays attention to what I say anyway. Though, I do tend to remember conversations I had with certain people many months or many years ago and think to myself what an idiot I am. ::

Yeah i feel exactly the same.I'm sure these things are not as big a deal as i have made it to be in my head,though its hard to let go of that feeling.

 

[Kiwong]

Yes. I dissect each conversation for where I might've stuffed up.

 

[Sprunk]

Yes. I dissect each conversation for where I might've stuffed up.

That's excatly what i do i guess.I just dissect it bit by bit till i end up with the worst possible outcome.And i do this even if it was a totally positive talk,my mind always leans towards the negative

 

[pebblesdundee]

Yes. I'm constantly reading and rereading what people say in my head, every time their motives change lol. It makes me very paranoid, but I've been doing it less lately, thank god

 

[Mickery]

Does anybody else have a habit of trying to correct what they already said?

 

[pebblesdundee]

Does anybody else have a habit of trying to correct what they already said?

When I'm online, people think I'm slightly crazy, because I do this. I look up the conversation and copy and paste something I've said, and then say "when i said this, i didn't mean it like *such and such* I mean't it like *this*"

sorry for the confusing post, i hope you can understand what I'm saying

 

[Kiwong]

That's excatly what i do i guess.I just dissect it bit by bit till i end up with the worst possible outcome.And i do this even if it was a totally positive talk,my mind always leans towards the negative

Exactly, and I do the same dissection with abosultely everyone I've had a conversation with that day.

 

[carecrab]

Yes constantly. About things i could and should have said.

But also future conversations about what i'm going to say

so it's pretty normal, well at least in SP world

 

[Bittersweet]

Is this symptom of SA a form of OCD?

 

[Sprunk]

Exactly, and I do the same dissection with abosultely everyone I've had a conversation with that day.

Yeah.With me its only a few people i do it with,though i can obsess about it all day.Anyone have any tips for breaking the cycle?

 

[Bittersweet]

Anyone have any tips for breaking the cycle?

I don't really have any tips, but CBT has helped me when I begin to fixate on conversations.

 

[Sprunk]

I don't really have any tips, but CBT has helped me when I begin to fixate on conversations.

Yeah that has helped me too,Though my health insurance has cut me off,so i can't really afford it anymore::

 

[Falkor]

Yup. I do this all the time. I replay conversations in my head, and think about what I've said or what people have said to me. I also, sometimes talk to people in my imagination, I don't know why, I just day dream a lot ::

Is this unhealthy? Can you tell me, why it is?

Maybe I am Ocd, I don't know::

 

[upndwn]

Yeah, I've been there. I also have a habit of planning out what I should say to people before I meet them, although those conversations never goes as I've imagined.