Do you need someone to kick your butt to do stuff?

gustavofring

gustavofring

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I do, I'm sad to say.

It's like I don't feel urgence. My sister sometimes has a way of kicking my butt when I need to do something for myself. I lack a sort of basis motivation and slumber away, squandering time, procrastinating. Like today, she frantically urged me to go to the city hall and ask for wellfare, and also look harder for work because I'm running out of money.

The problem is she obviously doesn't like it, because it's stress for her to worry about me. I hate that I have to be such a burden, and that I can't just feel urgence for myself. I hate that I can't just be fired up to care for myself and need someone to ignite that in me. If it wasn't for my sister kicking my easily distracted butt every time I'd probably be homeless already.
 
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gustavofring

gustavofring

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I don't care about myself enough to usually be proactive. Unless I'm feeling really good.
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Same here.

It's like I first need to feel good before I can be proactive. I should get rid of that mindset.

It probably has to do with low self-esteem and low self-worth. Like I'm not willing enough to fight for myself, or don't take it seriously enough, so I subconciously engage in self-destructive lazy behavior.
 
Gaucho

Gaucho

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yes, totally. i tell my mother to push me and if i don't react, then she has the right to be mean to me. because otherwise i don't do nothing
 
gustavofring

gustavofring

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I think we should start a club here. "Anti procrastination/slacker Buttkick thread" or something. And we keep each other in check.

Sometimes I feel like talking to each other with nice understanding words and satin gloves is kind, but it doesn't help. :kickingmyself:
 
lurknomore

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I definitely need to join this club. I literally do nothing unless someone else pushes me or starts something for me that I then have to finish. Although some of the things I need to do just seem pointless, like searching for a better job in this market where I don't stand a chance.
 
hardy

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good post....i just worked my butt off today and i actually feel good.Now i am resting/youtubing(good funny stuff)....which is also very important (i think) after work. All work and no play makes Hardy a dull boy....i say get a simple job where there are few people around and start improving your social well-being(why do we have to be a big-shot something where there is so much pain and anxiety??). Then relax...be in solitude THE REST of the day. Life is so much more fun when i work hard and feel like i deserve a good meal, feels good . Definitely good for my self-esteem.

I am all for the club if you guys are going to make one....may be we can post our daily journals here...some one can keep a monitor. Please take some initiative....i am willing to give a hand.
 
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gustavofring

gustavofring

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I'm gonna give it a thought. I might type up a thread later, where we can post journals, but one thing before I do...I feel there might be other similar threads and it's redundant. I don't check a lot of journal threads, can anyone inform we wether such a thread already exists that I don't know of?

I want to create a specific thread, where one can post goals and things one must do to get ahead in his/her life and where we keep up wether we followed through with it, AND where people can post encouragements and whoop each others behinds so to speak in a serious manner without sugar-coating.

And not really social goals like "today I talked to the cashier" but big things like spending a few hours looking for work, application letters, making this and that appointment, subscribing for a study or course.. etc. Basically more career/study related goals to get ahead in life that you've avoided doing and causing you problems. It's basically for the unemployed or goalless/aimless people in here. If you have a job and study, then don't post in it unless you want to set new goals.
 
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luiface

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gustavofring said:
I think we should start a club here. "Anti procrastination/slacker Buttkick thread" or something. And we keep each other in check.

Sometimes I feel like talking to each other with nice understanding words and satin gloves is kind, but it doesn't help. :kickingmyself:
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yes this sounds like a good idea
 
hardy

hardy

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TheQuietGirl86 said:
I thought i were the only one not being able to do stuff unless someone pushes me 24/7 =/
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everyone is...i procrastinated my butt off all my life. I would have been like Albert einstein if i had given my best in everything. Okay...not so great, but definitely very successful and happy.

time to relax...bbl
 
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