Do you guys remember when you were all outgoing?

voodoochild16 · 2014-06-23T06:58:03+00:00

Hey all, so I know that some of you out there reading this have either a history of being outgoing before you got SA, or you just grew up with SA from the very beginning. But for someone like me, I was outgoing until I was the age of 15. After that, and a tramautic experience, I developed SA...

Started by voodoochild16 · Jun 22, 2014 · 29 replies

Do you remember being outgoing?

No, I was going through SA from when I was just born. 20 · 51%
Yes, I remember the feeling of being outgoing like it was yesterday 10 · 26%
It's hard to remember, and just too depressing to remember or even think about. 9 · 23%

39 voters · voting is closed

hidwell Jun 25, 2014 at 5:49 PM #21

From as early as I can remember I have always worried.

THeCARS1979 Jun 25, 2014 at 10:35 PM #22

it feels alot harder if you had it from when you were in infancy. others tell me mine isnt that bad , I think its the women thing

Psychedelicious Jun 25, 2014 at 11:07 PM #23

no way

I have never ever in my life been outgoing and I'm sure I will never be. I used to have selective mutism, and now I just have social phobia. I don't think I will ever be an outgoing person and that is perfectly OKAY. I just need to be accepting of it, and find peace somehow.

Falloutboy Jun 26, 2014 at 8:05 PM #24

I'm only outgoing when I'm drunk, which doesn't happen too often.

tonicobastos Jul 14, 2014 at 10:32 PM #25

As a kid, I wasn't really outgoing but my mom used to bring me to parties and other social events and I felt no anxiety at all, some people even made compliments about how well I greeted everyone.
But at the age of 10 things started to change and by the age of 12 I was extremely shy.

voodoochild16 Jul 14, 2014 at 10:45 PM #26

tonicobastos said: ↑
As a kid, I wasn't really outgoing but my mom used to bring me to parties and other social events and I felt no anxiety at all, some people even made compliments about how well I greeted everyone.
But at the age of 10 things started to change and by the age of 12 I was extremely shy.

I remember being with my mom and she would tell me I did a good job after a good conversation, but it just pissed me off. Even though I appreciated the compliment, sometimes it was right in front of the person if we were at a bank or something. Eventually she learned, but any ways, it seems like your experience was different of course, maybe you liked the compliments.

I guess I didn't get to experience my whole life as being shy, but I think I'm glad I at least had half a life with being outgoing. 9 years from now and beneath the past I have been going through SA, and I never saw it coming at all. Sorry to hear it's been with you most of your life.

rusirius68 Jul 15, 2014 at 7:20 AM #27

On and off I guess through the years. The school years were lonely but college and the Navy were times when I was super confident and dare I say lucky? I enjoyed people and they enjoyed me. Loved going places and each new day. Seems so far away like it was someone else.

tonicobastos Jul 17, 2014 at 5:07 PM #28

voodoochild16 said: ↑
I remember being with my mom and she would tell me I did a good job after a good conversation, but it just pissed me off. Even though I appreciated the compliment, sometimes it was right in front of the person if we were at a bank or something. Eventually she learned, but any ways, it seems like your experience was different of course, maybe you liked the compliments.

I guess I didn't get to experience my whole life as being shy, but I think I'm glad I at least had half a life with being outgoing. 9 years from now and beneath the past I have been going through SA, and I never saw it coming at all. Sorry to hear it's been with you most of your life.

Maybe I haven't explained myself properly because of the language barrier but those compliments weren't patronising or condescending, people used to compare my social skills with those of other kids in a positive way, something like "you're very mature, my son can't give a firm handshake and look people in the eyes".:thumbup:
I actually find your case surprising since most SA sufferers have had it since an early age, usually in their early teens like me.

voodoochild16 Jul 17, 2014 at 9:05 PM #29

tonicobastos said: ↑
Maybe I haven't explained myself properly because of the language barrier but those compliments weren't patronising or condescending, people used to compare my social skills with those of other kids in a positive way, something like "you're very mature, my son can't give a firm handshake and look people in the eyes".:thumbup:
I actually find your case surprising since most SA sufferers have had it since an early age, usually in their early teens like me.

It sucks. But I always look at the bright side. I say to myself, "at least I had some kind of social life for 3/4 of my school years". But I have met sufferers who have actually been outgoing up until the age of 14-16 or even 18, and then got SA from there against there will.

Or wait, I even know someone that at the age of 20, went abroad to teach english to citizens of another country that spoke a different language. And because he didn't know anyone there, and was always alone, he got SA.

But yeah, it happens differently for everyone. But like I may have mentioned already, I still remember those good times so well that it's what motivates me to a certain degree to this day.

THeCARS1979 Jul 18, 2014 at 12:44 AM #30

i grew up with it so really cant say I was ever out going, its a real drag.

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