Do you guys remember when you were all outgoing?
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THeCARS1979
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it feels alot harder if you had it from when you were in infancy. others tell me mine isnt that bad , I think its the women thing
no way
I have never ever in my life been outgoing and I'm sure I will never be. I used to have selective mutism, and now I just have social phobia. I don't think I will ever be an outgoing person and that is perfectly OKAY. I just need to be accepting of it, and find peace somehow.
I have never ever in my life been outgoing and I'm sure I will never be. I used to have selective mutism, and now I just have social phobia. I don't think I will ever be an outgoing person and that is perfectly OKAY. I just need to be accepting of it, and find peace somehow.
Falloutboy
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I'm only outgoing when I'm drunk, which doesn't happen too often.
tonicobastos
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As a kid, I wasn't really outgoing but my mom used to bring me to parties and other social events and I felt no anxiety at all, some people even made compliments about how well I greeted everyone.
But at the age of 10 things started to change and by the age of 12 I was extremely shy.
But at the age of 10 things started to change and by the age of 12 I was extremely shy.
voodoochild16
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I remember being with my mom and she would tell me I did a good job after a good conversation, but it just pissed me off. Even though I appreciated the compliment, sometimes it was right in front of the person if we were at a bank or something. Eventually she learned, but any ways, it seems like your experience was different of course, maybe you liked the compliments.
I guess I didn't get to experience my whole life as being shy, but I think I'm glad I at least had half a life with being outgoing. 9 years from now and beneath the past I have been going through SA, and I never saw it coming at all. Sorry to hear it's been with you most of your life.
rusirius68
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On and off I guess through the years. The school years were lonely but college and the Navy were times when I was super confident and dare I say lucky? I enjoyed people and they enjoyed me. Loved going places and each new day. Seems so far away like it was someone else.
tonicobastos
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Maybe I haven't explained myself properly because of the language barrier but those compliments weren't patronising or condescending, people used to compare my social skills with those of other kids in a positive way, something like "you're very mature, my son can't give a firm handshake and look people in the eyes".:thumbup:
I actually find your case surprising since most SA sufferers have had it since an early age, usually in their early teens like me.
voodoochild16
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It sucks. But I always look at the bright side. I say to myself, "at least I had some kind of social life for 3/4 of my school years". But I have met sufferers who have actually been outgoing up until the age of 14-16 or even 18, and then got SA from there against there will.
Or wait, I even know someone that at the age of 20, went abroad to teach english to citizens of another country that spoke a different language. And because he didn't know anyone there, and was always alone, he got SA.
But yeah, it happens differently for everyone. But like I may have mentioned already, I still remember those good times so well that it's what motivates me to a certain degree to this day.
THeCARS1979
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i grew up with it so really cant say I was ever out going, its a real drag.