Argamemnon
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EXACTLY !Hoth said:
Do you fear becoming lonely?
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Walk
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I do fear it. It has become a reality the past 11 years.
Sometimes I get discouraged because my attempts at having friends, girlfriends have always been failures, to be frank.
As much as I try to be positive and reframe negative events in my life, I just can't SOLVE the damn issues. It's enough. How much longer am I going to have to be unsuccessful socially?
I've been feeling like crap the past few months. It's like, fine, I have mustered up the courage to go to restaurants, public events, etc. But then, who the fuck do I go with? I've gone with my brother, other times alone. Which is good, but shit, I want to go with friends or a girlfriend already.
I've tried talking to girls at school, but I'm not really interested in most. There was one girl I tried talking to last year, a very pretty, laid back girl. I went up to her after class and asked to study with her, and she said "I don't have time". Which was probably true, but I don't know.
I'm turning 23 in about a month, and I feel sooo damn old. I am definitely happy that I started going to college in early '07, so hopefully it will help me meet new people (which was harder than i thought, as I pointed out) and I know for a fact it will help me financially in my life for the long run.
Emotions now are like:
:x :roll: :!: :?: At the same time.
Sometimes I get discouraged because my attempts at having friends, girlfriends have always been failures, to be frank.
As much as I try to be positive and reframe negative events in my life, I just can't SOLVE the damn issues. It's enough. How much longer am I going to have to be unsuccessful socially?
I've been feeling like crap the past few months. It's like, fine, I have mustered up the courage to go to restaurants, public events, etc. But then, who the fuck do I go with? I've gone with my brother, other times alone. Which is good, but shit, I want to go with friends or a girlfriend already.
I've tried talking to girls at school, but I'm not really interested in most. There was one girl I tried talking to last year, a very pretty, laid back girl. I went up to her after class and asked to study with her, and she said "I don't have time". Which was probably true, but I don't know.
I'm turning 23 in about a month, and I feel sooo damn old. I am definitely happy that I started going to college in early '07, so hopefully it will help me meet new people (which was harder than i thought, as I pointed out) and I know for a fact it will help me financially in my life for the long run.
Emotions now are like:
:x :roll: :!: :?: At the same time.
Ericisme
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Wrong, had no friends for few years now, and I could go the rest of my life, the only thing I live for is a partner, not for the sex though, I couldn't give a shit about it. Just the feeling of being wanted, loved, special, or whatever you wanna say. Maybe just the feeling of having a reason to live, I don't know exactly, it's probably both.Hoth said:
eleanorigby
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Ericisme said:
You just described what a friend is, so it sounds like you do want a friend. Friends make you feel wanted and loved. But I know what you mean, you want someone that picks you especially, over all others, to be with. I worry about what will happen when my parents die. I'm an only child with no other close family, so I'll truly be alone in the world. If an emergency happens, who will help me or take care of me? Who can I count on to always be there for me? I do have some very close friends, but it's not the same as family. I want to start my own family so I'll never be alone. But, like many of you said, that probably won't happen. I don't even know where to start as far as romantic relationships go.
Moonie
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I don't fear loneliness, really. What fears me more is not being self-sufficient. Not having the financial means to support myself. Not being able to get a good job because of the way I am. Yes, I don't want to be alone, but I could manage if I were more indepedent than I am now. I wouldn't be able to survive alone right now- merely because I feel so meek and confused and dead.
faithnomore
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Argamemnon said:
I feel exactly the same thing. I just can't believe that i will ever find love. It just seems as if i will be single for eternity. Sad but true.
Argamemnon
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At least you have your parents, imagine if you were totally lonely for the rest of your life.recluse said:I'm already lonely
Ericisme
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Lots of you have been saying you love and hate it, maybe it's that you wanna be alone, but be alone with somebody that you love, and like spending time alone with, or something.
I live with my parents and siblings, but I feel alone, hate it, I wanna move out so bad and hope I can soon, but I don't wanna live alone forever, I wanna find a partner to spend all that time with, don't need friends, just want somebody to love and care for. Maybe to make me feel like I have a reason to be in this world, to love and be with my partner, I just hope it's possible to find one like me. Or I don't know, maybe to feel wanted or loved back.
I live with my parents and siblings, but I feel alone, hate it, I wanna move out so bad and hope I can soon, but I don't wanna live alone forever, I wanna find a partner to spend all that time with, don't need friends, just want somebody to love and care for. Maybe to make me feel like I have a reason to be in this world, to love and be with my partner, I just hope it's possible to find one like me. Or I don't know, maybe to feel wanted or loved back.
nihilistictendencies
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It's a back and forth thing with me. I have one very close friend, and I have days where I just don't really even want to deal with her, so I'll completely duck even her. On days like that, I'm very content to stay locked away and totally isolated. Then I have other days where I really just want someone to talk to. I feel absolutely alone on those days, and sometimes I'll even turn on the radio or television just to hear a voice. It's very difficult for me to understand this myself, so trying to explain it to anyone else is a real chore. My friend shows a great deal of patience with me and my moods, and she is a dear friend. Still, we have little surface interests in common, and while I greatly appreciate our friendship, sometimes I think it would be nice to find a few other people to debate, discuss, and share in the things I'm into. As far as romantic partners go, I've been single for nearly two years now, well mostly. Sometimes I miss all my ex-lovers, but the older I get it seems the more alone time I need, and I've recently just found it too difficult to deal with frequent break-ups because I have such a need for frequent isolation. Either they think I'm lying about my disorder so I can hide an affair, or they think I'm cold and heartless because I struggle so much with affection and intimacy. I've not totally resigned myself to dying alone yet, but I'm learning to accept that it is a possibility, if not a likelihood.
Zarrix
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Everyone here fears of becoming lonely, even in an everyday context. You want that support that so many other people have, the friends most others have when something goes oh so wrong in their life.
But in our case, if our life spirals even further down the crapper, then we have a very thinly veiled bunch of friends and family (in most cases) to fall back on, and what if everything goes pear shaped in that isolated circle?
Good social connections will allow you to get through almost anything (read, not all, because there have been cases where socially happy people have slid into depression without that network breaking down at all), but if something bad happens to us, we often don't have lot to cushion us.
But in our case, if our life spirals even further down the crapper, then we have a very thinly veiled bunch of friends and family (in most cases) to fall back on, and what if everything goes pear shaped in that isolated circle?
Good social connections will allow you to get through almost anything (read, not all, because there have been cases where socially happy people have slid into depression without that network breaking down at all), but if something bad happens to us, we often don't have lot to cushion us.