Do you ever wish you were good at something?
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alter_ego
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You ARE good at something. You're a nice, down-to-earth guy. 
Guess what? Nobody likes people who win all the time. They like people who make mistakes, who come last or near the last. They're the ones most of society can relate to.
The only thing I'm good at is writing.
Guess what? Nobody likes people who win all the time. They like people who make mistakes, who come last or near the last. They're the ones most of society can relate to.
The only thing I'm good at is writing.
RedRibbons
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the only way you will know what you are good at, is if you keep trying new things. Also, think about what you are really interested in. If you are really interested in something, it doesn't matter how good or bad you are at it, as long as you love it, you will get better at it.
Umm my problem, I'm good at a lot of things, but I just don't know what I really enjoy doing, or what I am extremely good at. Or what I could see myself doing for a lonnnnnnnnnnnng time.
Umm my problem, I'm good at a lot of things, but I just don't know what I really enjoy doing, or what I am extremely good at. Or what I could see myself doing for a lonnnnnnnnnnnng time.
recluse
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alter_ego said:You ARE good at something. You're a nice, down-to-earth guy.
Guess what? Nobody likes people who win all the time. They like people who make mistakes, who come last or near the last. They're the ones most of society can relate to.
The only thing I'm good at is writing.
I suppose that i am down to earth but i feel alien most of the time :lol:
alex29
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Im more well rounded than I am good at one thing. I pick things up well but I dont improve much, or I get easily discouraged.
its really frustrating tho b/c Im always slightly better than your average person but not good enough to be "good". for group activities this makes it difficult.
its really frustrating tho b/c Im always slightly better than your average person but not good enough to be "good". for group activities this makes it difficult.
RedRibbons
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alex29 said:
same... except for the "don't improve much" part.
alex29
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recluse said:
I know exactly how you feel. there are a lot of people on this site who I can recognize but you almost always say something that Ive felt at one point too.
I know there are a lot of good things about me, but people rarely point them out. I need them to do this. most people are reminded of their good points from the close friends they have, so they dont worry about it as much. I dont have any real close friendships. its all too easy to forget the good things about yourself when youre not confident and you feel like youre totally out of the picture most of the time.
i hope you meet someone who can help you realize what a good person you are.
Argamemnon
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I'm not bad at learning foreign languages. English is also a foreign language to me. Maybe I should become a translator - preferably a freelance translator.
Doomed2Die
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Ahah it was not long ago I thought the same of myself, but rationally I'm good at some things. I try to open minded, which I even commend myself for, and I'm quite willing to learn anything... even If I suck at it (It is my belief anyone can do anything over time and improve no matter what, natural talent helps but it's not essential).
Of course I feel no need to learn things, which while I would enjoy I have no motivation or patience to see it through. Eh, work in progress.
As for yourself Recluse, you seem a compassionate type of person, thats huugely commendable.
Yeah, pretty much hit the nail of the head there for me too. What is it I wonder... dedication? *shrug*.
Of course I feel no need to learn things, which while I would enjoy I have no motivation or patience to see it through. Eh, work in progress.
As for yourself Recluse, you seem a compassionate type of person, thats huugely commendable.
RedRibbons said:
Yeah, pretty much hit the nail of the head there for me too. What is it I wonder... dedication? *shrug*.
AngelsTears85
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I like the saying.... jack of all trades, master of none...I think this describes me pretty good :lol:
recluse said:
I don't think you suck at everything. I have a feeling you're just too depressed to be motivated to become good at something with lots of practice. Although I'm pretty good at guitar, I've reached a point where I'm somewhat unmotivated to get better at it. I think you don't wanna commit yourself to a hobby, because if you do become good at it, you'd be the only one who knows it.
Depressed4life
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I do like that i would have at least something to look forward to. YEt i have nothing.
I do like that i would have at least something to look forward to. YEt i have nothing.
recluse
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Meow said:
Well you look in pretty good shape to me :wink:
I was pretty much a fitness fanatic but as soon as i left school at the age of 16 i gradually became less active because i constantly felt lethargic and had no motivation, untill i totally stopped cycling two o'r three years ago. I mean i have a hard time getting out of bed to go to work leave alone getting out of bed early on weekends to ride my bike for miles. Riding my bike became a chore instead of an enjoyment towards the end.
I also did art in college but i totally gave up on art and haven't attempted to draw for almost ten years.
Argamemnon
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Does it not make you feel proud?Yer_Blues said:
nhen
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Recluse, Alex, I totally relate. If I don't receive insane amounts of positive feedback with anything I try, I give up. Or if I'm not an expert the first time I try it, I get discouraged and depressed. Yet, I always wish I was exceptional at soemthing. Then, I tell myself, I wouldn't have to perform well socially. My crappy social skills wouldn't matter, because I would derive my value as a human being (and my notoriety) from that particular thing I was good at. I'm guessing my problem is one part low self-esteem, and one part screwed-up-reward-centre-in-my-brain.
Luckily, I am aware of all this and am trying to think of ways to combat it. Also, I have an intense "fear of failure" thing going on, and I choose low-paying, unfulfilling jobs because I think that will help me deal with people's expections and certain social pressures (unfortunately, it never works). So all that prevents me from being good at anything. Working on being a writer though--not the greatest writer who ever lived, or the writer with the most loyal fans--but just-a-writer.
Luckily, I am aware of all this and am trying to think of ways to combat it. Also, I have an intense "fear of failure" thing going on, and I choose low-paying, unfulfilling jobs because I think that will help me deal with people's expections and certain social pressures (unfortunately, it never works). So all that prevents me from being good at anything. Working on being a writer though--not the greatest writer who ever lived, or the writer with the most loyal fans--but just-a-writer.