SmartyPants
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Hi everyone, just wondering if people do activities go out with people just so they have something to talk about?
In high school, I volunteer a lot and join several clubs (national honor society, art club, french club, etc) just so I have something to put down on my college applications. Plus, if any of those colleges interview me, I have something to talk about.
Now, I don't do this anymore, but I dread conversations with others because they will ask me 'what are your hobbies?' or 'have you visited such and such place?' and I wouldn't have much to say.
I think its definitely a good idea to. Many of us complain how boring we are and it's usually because we avoid experiences. Of course we'd have less to talk about.
Hi JackOfSpades, but can you really succeed at the thing you are forcing yourself to do if your heart isn't in it? Can it not make you more apathetic?One salsa class I went to I just couldnt stop crying. Sometimes I just cant deal with being around people; like I worked cleaning in an office and I'd have to do the job crying
Having a new exsperince is what doing things is all about What if you had no intrest in something but someone you knew did and you kinda forced your self to go along and ended up actualy liking it? I often force my self to do things I know I don;t like just because someone else im around would and sometimes I end up having fun or atleast with more infromation than I had before.I say do what you want to do. I think forcing yourself to thing's you aren't interested in is just plain silly. There are people that have interests similar to yours, even if they may be different and weird.
I say do what you want to do. I think forcing yourself to thing's you aren't interested in is just plain silly. There are people that have interests similar to yours, even if they may be different and weird.
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bollocks
Obviously in the context of just having something to talk about.
But a wize man and a fool are not far apartNope. I remember a quote from Plato (definitely not verbatim): "a wise man speaks because he has something to say; a fool speaks because he has to say something."
Having a new exsperince is what doing things is all about What if you had no intrest in something but someone you knew did and you kinda forced your self to go along and ended up actualy liking it?
If you never had any new exsperinces then you would never have anything to do or talk about anyway
Hi Laure15, when you was doing all the volunteering and going to several clubs did it help you? Because you had more things to talk to people about did you gain more friends?
Ive done this kinda thing like going to salsa classes, street dance classes and yes it really helps with having things to talk about with people but it doesnt feel reel. After the class it feels so good because its over Im just wondering if this really helps or sets me back more as at times I really want time out of life: to drop any friends I have just so I dont have to talk about what I've done or not done.
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Also, read what he posted: "...can you really succeed at the thing you are forcing yourself to do if your heart isn't in it? Can it not make you more apathetic?"
My heart wasn't in many of the social experiences that I forced myself to do, even though I did them with little or no problems. They tire me out even more.
I dunno what that's supposed to mean.
exsactly what i am trying to sayWho is interesting to you?
Those people probably talk about, or do something that interests you, no?
So then how would you not see that by doing things, and having experiences, you'd be more interesting to people?
Also, the notion of just doing what someone wants is faulty because life is not entirely about gratification. And we often do things we dont want to do for a desired result. But that doesnt make the endeavor pointless.