Do sociophobes make better friends?

[planemo]

Just wondering. I suppose we're people who appreciate the company of people more than those with a constant social life. We are more liable to feel lonely and thus when we seek friendship, we probably need it more than just desire it. As they say "a friend in need, is a friend indeed". What do you guys think?

 

[DanFC]

Well, because I have so few friends left and those left I've formed pretty tight-knit relationships with, I'd do almost (well not really) anything for them, and they know it.

 

[planemo]

I would say that varies from person to person. When I make an acquaintance usually they want to go out a lot and I have to plan things in advance. Really lame, but I need to know if it's crowded, etc. So sometimes I end up being a flake and eventually they give up. So maybe I wouldn't make a great friend, but that's just me. :/

Yeah that's a good point. Never really thought of that. I guess some sociophobes can be very loyal, but at the same time their fears may make them seem rather uninterested. I can say I have been both, as a friend.

 

[Dronee]

Most of my friends are very sociable. There's a few that are more quiet. Both types have been pretty good to me.

 

[Luke1993]

As they say "a friend in need, is a friend indeed".

Actually the quote is "A friend with weed is a friend indeed!" lol

But to answer the question at hand, yes I think so.

 

[planemo]

Actually the quote is "A friend with weed is a friend indeed!" lol

LOL :: ............

 

[Truthseeker]

Depends on the person. I think I´m pretty loyal and reliable, but since I´m too reclusive I wouldn´t be a good friend...

 

[Island_chic]

Usually I say definately. Great friends indeed. Social phobes appreciate friendship much more since it is so difficult for us to make friendships and many other things taht hold us back. Having friends is a real honor.

 

[Remus]

I've been freinds with a few online and off, I can say that the only thing that you share is empathy, everything else is just like "normal" freindships, i.e. the SA'er can be just as wonderful or just as crap as "normal" people. Infact some people with SA can have other serious conditions and can be very unstable freindwise.

 

[Noca]

Most of my friends are SAers.

 

[Lorraine Manca]

i know i dont make a better friend, and im definately a social phobe. i always think, i ought to invite that person to eat lunch with me, scrap the idea, and then crawl into my warm car with ear phones for an hour instead. being friends is so much effort when you have social phobia, id think it would be exactly the opposite, social phobics make worse friends because connecting is so hard

 

[WorldEndsWithMe]

I don't know if I'm a great friend. Being in university a lot of my friends want to go out and party, but I am a stay-at-home person. Going out for me means a lot of anxiety, pressure and depression. Many of my friends don't like that, saying something is "wrong" with me.
And although I do listen well and am pretty sensitive towards others feelings, sometimes really extroverted chatty people can really drain me to the point where I just get a little irritated. Especially when they are an "I talk - you listen" person, who never has time to hear your problems or never pays attention when you talk.
BUT if I am your friend and you can deal with the shyness, I'm so loyal and am always there for you...

 

[ShyIrishFox]

In my experience... yeah. Extroverted people just hoard a whole bunch of friends and barely get to know them, but when you're shy, the friends you make are true friends, because something has to just click for you to open up to them and really be their friend.

 

[ichiban]

I don't know really. I wouldn't say I'm a bad friend, but I definitely don't open up much around people, so it's probably hard for people to feel like they're really close to me. I think I'd also prefer more social people as friends, or end up befriending them more, because they're more likely to continue talking to me and try to pull me out of my shell, even if I don't say much back lol

 

[Tempus35]

I would say it isn't necessarily too. I have had some friends here and there, but as others have said I am more of a person that likes to do something like mess around on a computer, instead of partying. This slowly makes people stop inviting me, which in turn sort of makes my depressed. I can say that if you are my friend and loyal to me, I am loyal to you. And I am always there to listen and try to help when I can.

 

[Waybuloo]

No I don't think so. Social phobes usually don't like to initiate contact, keep in touch, and aren't comfortable with sharing themselves with people - by that I mean let their personalities shine through. We certainly need people and are receptive to feelings but I get caught up in myself when around people, I'm reluctant to make the effort and i'm probably not the best company.

 

[Waybuloo]

In my experience... yeah. Extroverted people just hoard a whole bunch of friends and barely get to know them, but when you're shy, the friends you make are true friends, because something has to just click for you to open up to them and really be their friend.

Well Said !

 

[Rexus]

from what i've seen of the people here, I'm gonna say absolutely not. A lot of them are living in their own bubbles and don't care about anyone else.

 

[heartstrings]

from what i've seen of the people here, I'm gonna say absolutely not. A lot of them are living in their own bubbles and don't care about anyone else.

Hmm, that's unfortunate and discouraging that you say that but I haven't been here long enough to know if that's true. I'd really like to think that our people make good friends. Dunno yet.

I may be a sociophobe but I'm also probably one of those annoying people that if I did have a friend I'd become attached to them and worry if they went too silent/were away for too long. I'd pummel them with "Are you okay?" "Do you need space? I won't be offended if you do" Lol!

 

[Pookah]

I might not be great for "going outside" purposes but I am willing to be helpful so there is that. It depends on what makes a better friend. Some people want fun people to go places with some want someone to rely on in an emotional/intellectual way.