Huh? I've never heard that word..."fatalist". Is it like cynicism?
I'm not sure how old you are....but lots of guys are just after sex. And will do whatever it takes to get it....being nice to you, getting you things, saying they like you, etc.
But there are some guys who really do like you for you...and it can be in a very short period of time. My hubby knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me after 1 week of dating.
ALL guys are after sex, dear. Including that hubby of your's. The same is true with girls. Guys are just more honest and open about it, as another person "sort-of" already said.
I know some scientific studies done on human pheromone exchange has shown promise in the last few years. But I will always believe modern Man finds a mate based solely on outward appearances. The eyes DO have it, as they say.
We are sexual beings. Once our bodies are ready for valid procreative action, we begin to hunger for sex as regularly as we hunger for food or water. And no we may not die if we never have sex, but we aren't as healthy, that's for sure.:
: Some of you know what I am talking about. Nature wants all its creatures to contribute to the circle of life. When one doesn't, for whatever reason, they are eventually weeded out. So, that said, sex is pretty important to people, no matter how they put on their pants.
As for the issue at hand, you're a pretty girl. In the world we live in,
there you go. If you do not like the attention you get, and I understand how you feel, maybe you
should hide your outward appearance from the opposing sex. It's creepy to have complete strangers always talking to you and being nice with pretense so thick you can whack it with a stick! Personally, I think what you're after is
truth. The
real stuff. You want someone to cross your path that actually is willing to look beyond your pretty looks and see the pretty person on the inside. Am I close here?
My advice on that, do what most people do. Find someone just as "most" as you, then try with them. I mean you don't see supermodels dating computer analysts, right? And you don't see any conservative librarians having hot nights on the town with Chipendales, either. You gotta find your kindred, you know???? When you do, THAT kind of person will be able to look beyond the outward stuff because they walk a similar path. Then it will be like that brilliant Miss Kitty said earlier...what makes them stay is
who you are.
Best of luck to ya, yuletide.
PS-EDIT: Forgot something!
Hiding your looks is one thing. Ruining your body because of what others think would be stupid! So don't do that.