Honestly, I don't think most girls like shy guys. You should be able to tell by now since you probably haven't been asked out much. You can't use looks for everything. Although I'm sure a few women like shy guys but they still want confidence out of shy guys. I'm super shy and lack confidence and therefore I don't get females. but from what i've seen it seems that girls want the bad guys who treat them like crap and walk all over them anyways.
Word of advice - Relationships are overrated IMO. I had one for almost 2 years then it ended. It was so sad but I moved on. I've had a few girls since then but all it makes me realize is how miserable it is to be bossed around all the time and told what to buy and how much to spend and when we can have sex and stuff like that. It's so much of a hassle, but maybe that's just my opinion. Right now in my life (I'm 24) I enjoy being without a female and just doing and spending whatever amount of money I want. Maybe someday I will think about finding someone but for now no.
Just take your time and enjoy your freedom and don't worry about it. Things will come your way when you least expect like they did for me at times.
But yeah i think girls like shy guys because we are mysterious and different than the typical guy.
We've all read the posts of the people in their 30's who've never had a relationship. That stuff scares me. When is their "time" gonna come? It may be never, and the same thing can happen to us younger people. I don't believe that some magical fate is going to make sure a girl comes my way. Until many of us experience the things you have first hand, we will worry.
This is what scares me to death. I of course try to keep positive most of the time because I AM working on getting rid of the SAD/Shyness that I have and i'm winning so far. But theres always that thought in the back of my mind. "What happens when it becomes TOO late, whats going to happen because I lack experience at my age, I might be able to wipe a lot away...BUT WHAT...WHAT IF IT BECOMES TOO LATE WHEN I DO!? "
I hate thinking about it from this perspective though, because it really gets me down. I'm only 21 (almost 22), but eight years can pass in a flash and then i'll be 30 and what? I'm deathly afraid of being alone.
Sorry to go emo on everyone. But had to throw that out there.
I agree with everything you said 100 percent. I'm 20 and been dealing with this for years like middle school and I'm inexperienced and I'm wondering if this dream lady in my head who will give me a chance and love me for who I am and not care about my experience is real. I'm scared of going crazy living with not much socialization and growing old and alone
I would say I'm more drawn to intellectual / artistic types, and sometimes that means shy guys
Shy guys would understand when you're not always feeling your best and don't want to go out, but I would also prefer someone assertive / confident.
Weird, I know - perhaps I would like to be with someone I could aspire to be if that makes sense.
Yes, girls really do like shy guys.
I'd be attracted to a guy who was respectful, kind, able to hold an intelligent conversation, love music and was humourous also
I think our true sense of humour (and I'm rather proud of mine - the one thing that keeps me positive and optimistic at times) truly emerges when we are comfortable with ourselves and the company we are with.
It's difficult to take the risk and make a joke, I know, but it's become easier to me as I get older.
I have always been told I have a great sense of humour, which I now believe I do - just took me awhile to accept a compliment and not overanalyse it
Comedy films are the best - laughter & music heal me
I am dating a shy guy and I love it. He is more understanding of my shyness, but he is a lot more inexperienced than I am. It feels really good to be the first one to do all the relationship things with him and he lets me show him what I like. I do have to make sure to ask what he wants a lot otherwise he won't speak up. I also really like that he opens up to me and a few close friends, but not anyone else. That makes me feel special. It is important that a shy guy can communicate with a girl, I think. If you can't talk openly with a person then there is no point.
For me it's just harder to feel as trusting and secure with outgoing guys.. But, if someone is a good person.. Then that's what really gets me.. Not whether they are shy or not..