Disgusted by the thing the mirror

[Jodie-Tyler]

Hi, I'm 16 going on 17, and I come to my fathers house once a year for a week.
I've always had low self esteem and never go out unless im happy with my appearence. So I agreed to stay at my dads because my skin was clear, which is rare for me.
But just my luck I had a break-out 2nd day in. And im soo ashamed and embarassed of my face because my chin is covered in spots. I would stay in my room and wait until it clears, but my dad doesnt understand that teenagers like to be in their rooms so askes me to come down.
Only I dont want to be a disapointment to him. All fathers want their daughters to be pretty and smart. And it kills to me that i cant give him the pretty daughter he wants.

I'm so depressed ive been crying at the very sight of me, and use any kind of prop to cover my face, such as a cup or my hand.

Anyone have any advice....
Jodiex

 

[mrb]

im a father and trust me he loves you lol .... a few spots are not going to change his love for you your the 1 bothered about your spots not him , try not get get to upset , spots do go you know ........ you say you want to be a pretty daughter to him lol really your dad loves you , dont worry about your spots , he just wants , as all fathers want there daughter to be happy

 

[LookingForward]

Hi Jodie,
I'm afraid you have a very wrong perception of what fathers want from their daughters. I have a daughter and the only thing I want is for her to be happy, to see a smile on her face and for her to know how much I love her no matter what... Your father doesn't understand because a few spots mean nothing to him, he probably doesn't even notice them, all he sees is his beautiful daughter. He wants you down with him because he only has a week to spend with you, I'm sure this time with you is precious to him and he wants to spend as much of it in your company as he can.
My advice would be to forget about the spots on your face, every teenager gets them and nobody really cares about them, they're natural; and your dad certainly does not give a damn about them. Don't waste the little time you have with him worrying about something so trivial, just enjoy being with your dad.
When dads look at their girls all they ever see is the most beautiful girl in the world...

 

[Waybuloo]

I remember nearly committing suicide because of a huge zit that won't go away and it was ruining my life. But really I was by always thinking about it and what people must think of me etc. My mum and dad never thought any less of me for having skin problems. MRB is right (good on you for posting something serious for once), a father won't care about things like that. I have a daughter too. She had nappy rash, skin rashes on her face and I still love her. My Dad still gets a zit from time to time and we share our pimple woes over a pint of Guiness (that's an Irish beer that is full of iron).

 

[mrb]

Hi Jodie,
I'm afraid you have a very wrong perception of what fathers want from their daughters. I have a daughter and the only thing I want is for her to be happy, to see a smile on her face and for her to know how much I love her no matter what... Your father doesn't understand because a few spots mean nothing to him, he probably doesn't even notice them, all he sees is his beautiful daughter. He wants you down with him because he only has a week to spend with you, I'm sure this time with you is precious to him and he wants to spend as much of it in your company as he can.
My advice would be to forget about the spots on your face, every teenager gets them and nobody really cares about them, they're natural; and your dad certainly does not give a damn about them. Don't waste the little time you have with him worrying about something so trivial, just enjoy being with your dad.
When dads look at their girls all they ever see is the most beautiful girl in the world...

hey i just said that well ok yours was a bit longer and better than mine

 

[LookingForward]

hey i just said that well ok yours was a bit longer and better than mine

yeah I'm so bloody verbose sometimes everything has been said by the time I get the post submitted...

 

[mrb]

yeah I'm so bloody verbose sometimes everything has been said by the time I get the post submitted...

it happens try not to feel to bad mate

 

[Ignace]

Father's may be rude, but they love you, always ! Even if he's 'really' bad, they know your his blood. Believe me, you won't dissapoint him.

 

[Jodie-Tyler]

Thanks you guys.
You've really made a difference. I realise that perhaps my perception of what a father wants for a daughter IS wrong, and I thank you for maknig me see that.

I go back home in 2days now, and I really do have more self esteem now that I know that my dad doesnt care what package I come in, as long as im with him, he's happy.

Cheers guys.
You have no idea what a break through this is for me!
xxxxxxx
A Million Thanks.

Jodie.

 

[Waybuloo]

Thanks you guys.
You've really made a difference. I realise that perhaps my perception of what a father wants for a daughter IS wrong, and I thank you for maknig me see that.

I go back home in 2days now, and I really do have more self esteem now that I know that my dad doesnt care what package I come in, as long as im with him, he's happy.

Cheers guys.
You have no idea what a break through this is for me!
xxxxxxx
A Million Thanks.

Jodie.

I just want to say it makes me happy to see that we helped the OP feel better and have more self esteem. For reasons I can't explain this makes me happy

 

[Jodie-Tyler]

I just want to say it makes me happy to see that we helped the OP feel better and have more self esteem. For reasons I can't explain this makes me happy

Awww that's nice.
xxx
J